TheZen4Men: Love and Lust
For many men admitting that a relationship is just about the physical lust is difficult. In fact we men find it difficult to admit that we have feelings least of all express it to women. We may very well know that the woman we are involved with sees us as more than just a fuck but we would rather move along without admitting we don't feel the same way. Sometimes we do this because we don't want to hurt her feelings, we even say things that make her believe we care about her past the lust and the sex. In the end it is best that we are honest with her and let her know that we are not emotionally invested and perhaps never will be. In spite of our intention to be honest we may fail repeatedly because we like to have a women beside us that will serve that physical and primal need.
I say that it is OK to have a purely physical connection with another human being if you are honest about it. Although many women will share that just sex is not enough for them and that when they give themselves sexually they are investing not just their body but their heart as well. Men need to understand this common response from women and let her know immediately that we are not interested in a serious or invested relationship with her. By being honest you are honoring her and respecting her so that she can make a decision to either continue to partake or opt out. A man who is in his authenticity is one who will not only create good karma in his life he will flourish when the right woman comes along that he does want to have a committed relationship with.
Women are made differently from men and I am not just talking about their anatomy. Women hold a connection between their sexual being and their emotional being. When they have sex with a man they usually feel an emotional response. For this reason many women do not have sex with men soon into the relationship and even when they wait it is something much more sacred and important to them. Men must being to understand this and be more emotionally present when we are getting involved with a woman sexually. At the very least asking a woman how she feels is crucial to building an open and honest connection with her, sexual or not.
Men can play an important part in the process that takes place in any relationship. We can decide if we feel more than a physical attraction to a woman and make a conscious decision to lay the cards on the table and say what we want or don't want. Instead we tend to play games and attempt to get a woman in bed by saying things that we believe will be convincing and help us to "score" (bad word). We can be more up front and let women know we are interested in having some fun bypassing the games and manipulation. The best thing to do when we are dating a woman or even if we just met her is to play fair. I think that is all that women want of men.
Love is a beautiful experience but as men we must know what we want and treat women as though they are valuable and acknowledge their differences. We can become more sensitive and compassionate when we initiate contact with women and perceive them as people who have something wonderful and magical to contribute to us as human beings. Loving a woman takes more than being good in bed and there is much argument of the fact that women like men to be more than just aggressive but also sensitive and kind. When we view women as just sex objects we are dishonoring the goddess and we must always remember that we men were all born of a goddess who carried us for nine months.
Coach Elliott Maximo Collazo
I say that it is OK to have a purely physical connection with another human being if you are honest about it. Although many women will share that just sex is not enough for them and that when they give themselves sexually they are investing not just their body but their heart as well. Men need to understand this common response from women and let her know immediately that we are not interested in a serious or invested relationship with her. By being honest you are honoring her and respecting her so that she can make a decision to either continue to partake or opt out. A man who is in his authenticity is one who will not only create good karma in his life he will flourish when the right woman comes along that he does want to have a committed relationship with.
Women are made differently from men and I am not just talking about their anatomy. Women hold a connection between their sexual being and their emotional being. When they have sex with a man they usually feel an emotional response. For this reason many women do not have sex with men soon into the relationship and even when they wait it is something much more sacred and important to them. Men must being to understand this and be more emotionally present when we are getting involved with a woman sexually. At the very least asking a woman how she feels is crucial to building an open and honest connection with her, sexual or not.
Men can play an important part in the process that takes place in any relationship. We can decide if we feel more than a physical attraction to a woman and make a conscious decision to lay the cards on the table and say what we want or don't want. Instead we tend to play games and attempt to get a woman in bed by saying things that we believe will be convincing and help us to "score" (bad word). We can be more up front and let women know we are interested in having some fun bypassing the games and manipulation. The best thing to do when we are dating a woman or even if we just met her is to play fair. I think that is all that women want of men.
Love is a beautiful experience but as men we must know what we want and treat women as though they are valuable and acknowledge their differences. We can become more sensitive and compassionate when we initiate contact with women and perceive them as people who have something wonderful and magical to contribute to us as human beings. Loving a woman takes more than being good in bed and there is much argument of the fact that women like men to be more than just aggressive but also sensitive and kind. When we view women as just sex objects we are dishonoring the goddess and we must always remember that we men were all born of a goddess who carried us for nine months.
Coach Elliott Maximo Collazo
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