Coach Elliott

I have a wonderful friend who stays overnight once a month and we refer to this date as our PJ party. This time around she came by yesterday and stayed until late this afternoon.  As is usual for us we talk about everything under the sun and we end by supporting each other.  This time what came forward was "turning up the volume".  We both agreed that each of us needed to turn up the volume in our individual lives and turn it down when it comes to other people.  Now after thinking about it I decided that writing about the subject of turning up our volume is the one I would like the focus of the blog to be. The main idea of turning the volume up in life is basically placing more of our energy into ourselves and taking it off of others who are simply a distraction.  It is when we become purposeful in our effort to find our own path and our own life's volume goes up and our life becomes more of what we would like it to be, more of how we deserve to live.  Th...

I cannot count how many times I am at a mall or in some public venue and a child has a major tantrum.  This of course includes kicking, screaming, crying and at times him or her hitting the parent.  Recently I witnessed a mother attempting to calm her child down again when he picked up his little hand and hit her.  I am old school so I really wanted to sweep him up, give him one good wack on the buttock and place him on a time out.  She did none of these things and I frankly, was not surprised one bit.  These days the younger generation of parents are spooked about everything and more concerned about the child's sanity than their own, never mind the fact that they are the parent who is expected to take care of this little life in front of them.  I love the idea that the airlines share about the oxygen masks, asking the adults to put theirs on first and then their child.  It seems to me that if the parent lives then he or she can place the mask on the c...

Leah Remini, actor and activist against Scientology outed this group who call themselves a religion when in fact by definition they are a cult.  The fact that Scientology is tax exempt is shocking to me and for many a questionable group of elitist who claim that what they are doing is making the earth a better place to live in and helping people become highly functioning beings.  It is hard not to say it right out or to think: Bullshit!  Leah who was raised as a child in this cult would beg to differ sighting both emotional and physical abuse on the part of it's leaders.  In a documentary on Netflix several former members share their horror stories including one young man who is literally brought to tears as he shares the miserable experiences he had.  It would take a very long article if not a book to describe their practices like: squirreling and bating one of which involves someone trained to cuss you out and yell in your face in order to help make one immune...

We have all hear of "The Power of Now" and "The Power of Intention" but few of us have thought about the power of laughter.  I don't know about anyone else but I struggled with being too serious for much too long while forgetting how to see the humor in life and all of the situations we find ourselves in.  Although I am not one to sugar coat everything I now understand the power of humor and of laughter.  Whenever I can stand back and see the lightness of an interaction or experience I feel more empowered and less of a hostage. I was an abused child.  For years my mother slapped me, hit me with objects and called me names I would not repeat in mixed company.  For years I held on to the severity of the abuse and relived it with anger and venom.  As time passed I began to understand that I was literally poisoning myself and that no matter what reliving this old story was weighing heavily on me.  My sister who seems to find the humor in almost anything ...

To say that Trump is rude  and arrogant minimizes his behavior.  As a Latino and as a human being I find it appalling that even before he went to Puerto Rico he has one of his typical conflicts with the Mayor of Puerto Rico, demonstrating once again that he has little to no respect for others, never mind the lack of compassion and genuine caring, yet as sad as this may seem it is surely his character or lack of that shows through.  As is usual for him, everything has to be a confrontation and a battle because apparently this is what he knows best and when someone does not know any different they continue to come from a place of anger, arrogance and superiority.  It is a sad day for all of us that a person like this is running our country and has so little regard for human suffering. Once in Puerto Rico Donald (as I prefer to call him) goes to a distribution sight where supplies are being passed out and begins to grab paper towels and throw them out to the disaster ...

As we have often heard, people come and they go but family is forever.  Although no one has a perfect family when it comes down to it family are the people who usually stick by us, defend us and listen to our joys and sorrows.  I think it wise that we cultivate family whenever possible and that we forgive each other so that we can show up for one another in a way that is purely about love.  At every turn family is usually all we have and so it is important to tend to those family members who are wiling to be a part of the unit of support and love. Let's look at some of the elements of family and some of the key elements of connecting or reconnecting with family: 1. Forgiveness and Family:  One of the things that drives us away from our family is our lack of forgiveness.  Although we believe that forgiving others is about them it's really more about us.  Holding on to old situations and old stories holds us back while forgiveness actually propels us for...

It may be true that for some men looks are everything.  It seems we have bought into the notion that a woman has to be a size 6, have blond hair and be sexy.  Then there are the girls in the Prada ads that look as though they may be anorexic.  They are so thin that some of us would like nothing more than to feed them, some looking more androgynous than the season before.  In some parts of the world men are selected for women based on their riches, social status or both.  Although we would like things to be different we still live in a world where women who are too assertive are labeled aggressive and women who are liberated must be lesbians.  In the end there is a fine balance between being perceived as too bold and knowing how men often operate.  What men like in a woman is not as limited as one may believe while at the same time more simple than what women think. What are the 5 things men are looking for?: 1. An Empowered Goddess:  More tha...