Coach Elliott

When I first heard the story about the mother who forgot her baby in the car I thought, "How does any parent forget their child and leave them anywhere without being aware of it?"  The mother who recanted the story of how her baby died was devastated and in tears, not able to control her emotions of sadness and guilt.  She, like many of us was in unconscious automatic living.  She was in a hurry to get to work, stopped at a gas station to put gas in her car, ran into work and eight hours later discovered her baby suffocated in the car from from the intense heat.  She had forgotten to drop her baby off at the caregiver and simply did not notice she was still in the car.  This story truly reminded me to stay present and the importance of it. Living in the present moment requires intention.  Living consciously is about showing up for yourself and others.  It is experiencing every moment and savoring life.  When we live in the moment we experience the fullness of life.  It is a

I realize I have already posted one BLOG today but I guess I feel compelled to share this while it is fresh on my mind.  This morning I coached a couple who are clients of mine and who have been struggling in relationship.  When they came to me it seemed that they were close to ending the relationship.  Now four sessions later they are emoting, sharing, smiling and laughing.  Of course there is a lot more work to do and we all realize it and acknowledged that today, every time we meet I collectively learn something with them.  This is what I want share and feel that worked: 1. Take the time to tell your partner what you value in them or write it down and gift them with it. 2. Take a loving inventory as individuals in each area of your life using adjectives to describe that area of your life: spiritually, financially, in your relationship, health and nutrition and creatively.  This is an individual inventory.  Then write down why you wrote that response/descriptor (positive or chal

There is a lot of talk about meditation and one can google them or look up methods of meditating on YouTube.  I would like to share my thoughts about meditation and the importance of simply taking the time to calm our mind and body.  Holding a time of sacred reverence for yourself is a very practical way to look at meditation. It is a daily gift you give to yourself.  I ask my clients to participate in a guided or silent meditation before we begin to  co-create and ask them to view meditation as simply a way for us to get centered before we begin.  Meditation can be seen as a self-loving and nurturing act that reminds us that we are valuable and taking the time for ourselves is a way to honor our mind, body and spirit. It is a daily opportunity to raise our energy level, replenish our hearts and take time to honor and send light to the universe, ourselves and to others.  It is a necessary and loving act that we can do each day before the start of the day and one that will give us the

Tonight I attended a group meditation in Evanston.  At the end of the session the teacher announced that there would be a talk about having gratitude for the people in our lives who have wronged us, hurt us or simply been mean spirited towards us.  She shared her own story about how her mother forced her into prostitution as a young girl and how painful this experience had been.  Another woman shared that her brother has been abusive towards her all her life and that he pulls her in and then pushes her away in a way that sounded and looked like abuse.  It was hard for her to say that her brother abused her and at first she said that it was verbal and mental but then recalled when he had beat her up a couple of times.  To this day he is still verbally abusive and she struggles with having a loving relationship with him.  Some of you have likely been treated in a way that is disrespectful, abusive and simply mean.  It seems obvious that where the healing needs to start to be applied is

Today I would like to share my experience on Thanksgiving with my family.  My daughter Taina Luz invited us all to her and her husband's home.  The food was beyond delicious and as usual I ate way too much of it.  We celebrated my ex-wife's birthday at the same time.  My daughter's surprised her with a cake and sang the birthday song.  My granddaughter Mia sang it again solo for her grandmother who she adores.  After she finished singing we noted that Lucy was crying and she immediately shared her  fond memories of when her parents celebrated her birthday on Thanksgiving day each year.  Her father is the person that I refer to as my father in law who passed away very recently and her mother died about four years ago of cancer.  At that moment I could not think of anything more special than being with my daughter's, family members and my ex-wife and good friend.  It was even more amazing to me that I was there with my current husband Cary and that everyone in my family e

Sometimes we have to think about what we have to be grateful for when we are in victim mode and complaining about all the terrible things that happen to us.  At other times we experience legitimate challenges that make us wonder where our joy is at and makes it difficult to access it.  At those times I would encourage a gratitude list.  Make a list of all the things that you are grateful for and do this for a month.  At the end of the day before you go to bed, write down some things that happened that you appreciated.  It may start with very small things like the ability to see a beautiful tree or a hug from your child.  It could even be a smile you received from a stranger on the bus.  Finding things to be grateful for and documenting it heightens our appreciation and accentuates the positive.  The more you focus on the beauty of life the more joy you will experience. 

I have been thinking about the focus and purpose of my BLOG and one of the first things that comes up for me is that the purpose is to be of service to others.  I also get that spirit has something to say and that if I listen I can speak things of value that may have a healing effect.  I am willing to open myself up to every possibility and every intuitive feeling.  I am not wiser than others and in fact I feel like we are all capable of accessing the wisdom we need and the guidance we ask for.  This BLOG has a purpose today and I am going to embrace that purpose as one that is my calling.  I intend to use this venue to share what I have learned in life and in my spiritual psychology program.  As long as I am alive I feel an obligation to give and a desire to open my heart to receiving.  This BLOG is about life and love, light and dark and everything in between or so I sense it will be.  I have a feeling that the more I write the closer I will be to knowing the purpose, scope and inten

Coach Elliott : November 2012 I have been thinking about sharing a little about myself and the purpose of my BLOG with all of  all of you, after a friend who read my BLOG encouraged me to do so. Tonight I have decided to open myself up to doing that.  My name is Elliott and I have been doing the work of a life coach and mentor since 2008.  I earned my Masters degree in Spiritual Psychology from the University of Santa Monica in California.  This intensive course of study was one that came to me when I realized that I needed to do my own self-loving work after many years of dysfunctional relationships and an acute realization that I wanted to be a  better version of who I was.  There was one key incident in my life that unveiled the need for me to look at myself and consider what needed to be transformed.  It became clear to me when one side of my face was paralyzed and I had to ask myself what needed to be healed and given an application of love as well as what was not in alignment.

My father in law is Ercilio Luna. Coach Elliott

Yesterday morning my father in law transitioned.  It was a sad but glorious day because what I believe is that he has reached another level of life and love and has been lifted from his pain and united with spirit. I no longer view death as only darkness and frankly view it more as light, a possible reason to celebrate.  I sense that the journey after death is a sacred one and may not be as permanent as we might think.  I don't profess to know where we go but given the numerous stories we have all  heard from those who have had near death and temporary death experiences it seems that where we go is heavenly and filled with joy.  It certainly is described as something of a magical experience in spite of it being a mystery.  I think that the invitation is to live this life we have been gifted with and to know that when it ends it is only the body, our shell that remains.  When my father in law passed I looked down at his body and sensed that his spirit was not inside of it and sudden

We know when we are in a loving relationship if we are witnessed and heard by the person who has stated that they love us.  We know that we are in a loving relationship because the person who we are spending time with enjoys it. We know we are in loving relationship when someone respects us and shows us how much he or she respects us through thier actions.  We know when we are not in a loving relationship when all we can think of is how to accomodate someone else. 

I find it interesting that people are so compelled to tell others what they think of them without provocation or invitation.  My loving grandmother nor my background in Spiritual Psychology could have prepared me for an email I recently received from someone who apparently got up in the morning and needed to express their anger. I think the first thing that came to mind was that if this person were in front of me that perhaps there would have been the proper filter that would have made the message less venom or more dignified, but then again who would know.  Once the darkness faded and my heart and mind aligned itself to love I realized that what this person said to me was not only unkind, it was likely projection and past pain expressing.  I have since worked on forgiveness and forwardness, allowing myself to get back on my life path and doing more of what I know brings me joy.  To those of you out there whose boundaries have been crossed and someone has attempted to place labels and