Coach Elliott

I think that given all the things that can happen in life living is a choice. When we are sick it makes it harder for us to make that choice.  When we are in pain it is harder for us to see that there is a light at the end of the pain and that choosing to live is a much more difficult choice to make.  In fact when we are in pain choosing to die seems like a viable option.  Yet at the bottom of it all is that fact that not everyone has the strength make the choice to live versus the one not to.  Illness and pain can make us weak in many other ways: emotionally and spiritually, not just physically.  No matter what is happening to us, living is a choice and making that choice is tested throughout our lives. When we choose to live we decide that whatever our state of our world and whatever our personal journey that we are worthy of living fully.  When we are going through the pain states it is harder to make a choice to live and to live fully.  It is in those difficult moments that we mu

There are endless ways that we heal and since I have been fighting my post operation healing and pain it has become more obvious to me that I must be open to various ways of healing.  At the very top of my list is making sure that I get enough rest: Complete rest:  I have likely had more sleeping hours than being awake since the onset of my operation.  At the beginning I truly felt like I just needed to sleep for long hours at a time.  When the body is that taxed by an event like an operation it is crucial that we get the most rest possible. Isolation : I have decided to spend time at home in private.  Part of this isolation is because I did not have the strength to talk.  I wanted to keep my energy for myself and expel energy just in healing and not having to answer questions.  Although very long term isolation may not be as healthy, short term isolation is.  During this time you can have one person who will support you and not have the expectation that you entertain them.  Taki

"When you are stirring the pot, just stir the pot".  What this means is to enjoy and stay in the moment of that task that you are doing at the time.  The converse of this kind of thinking is when we stir the pot and we are thinking about the overdue bills or that we may very well stir it for too long.  We are not in the moment but rather everywhere but the moment.  Yet what makes for a full life is a life where we do things at that moment and stick to that which we are engaged in as if nothing was more important.  Cooking is only one example of how staying in the moment will result in a wonderful meal or at the very least the best meal you can make. We are very proud of being people who multitask and to some degree this might be neccessary and could be called a gift.  The only thing about trying to do three or four different things at a time is that often times none of them get your full attention and hence rise to your highest potential.  Seperating each task or activity t

Fear based living is easy when we are bombarded with messages that tell us to be afraid.  We are constantly reminded by the media of all the things to be in fear about.  Commercials on TV are instilling fear in us at every turn.  From owing money to the IRS to needing health medications that will eliminate depression but have the side effect of increasing thoughts of suicide we are being filled up with thoughts that are meant to scare us.  The reality is that we don't have to buy into all of these fear based messages and that we can live more freely from a place of love.  But how do we do that?  Well, here are my suggestions: Tune Out: Stop the negative fear based messages and their negative effect by turning off the TV, especially when you are feeling vulnerable.  Instead play some lovely music and spend your time doing something else to entertain yourself.  When you turn off the TV you are turning less likely to receive messages that are fear based because that is exactly wha

If you woke up it is assured that you are still here and that there is a reason for you to be here.  The day that your journey is over then you will cease to be in this space and time, you will transition, you will die.  As long as you are with a breath and alive you must know that you have a purpose and that whatever that is it has not yet been achieved.  There is also a lesson that you must learn still because if you did not need to learn anything more then you would once again not be here.  You would not have awoke and the fact is that you did. Finding our purpose or the reason we are here another day does not need to be complex, confusing or mysterious.  It can be that we are here to share a lovely day with our child who at one point during the course of the day needed to hear what we had to say or needed for us to listen to something deep from their heart place.  Our purpose is daily and if we woke up we must be in deep gratitude and we must listen closely to the messages we are

What we think and place our emphasis on is exactly what we will get the most of.  If we are in a constant state of complaining and thinking doom and gloom then we can stop wondering why we are miserable.  We can in fact think ourselves there to where we would rather be yet we insist on believing that we cannot change our thoughts, actions and then our outcomes. It is a proven fact we can convince our mind that life is good or that what we want is already true.  With that fact in our data bank we can easily change our life for the better.  We can make our life into what we want it to be to a large extent if we simply think in a way that is positive, joyful and blessed. When we think we are lucky then we become that lucky person.  When we think we are able and good enough as we are then we will be.  Nothing is more powerful than our thoughts. The key to finding ourselves and our life where we would like to be is to have a plan that supports that one decision to be happy.  That plan c

I have to say that at 61 I am now happier and having more fun than ever.  I feel like for a time there I was stagnant and with the wrong people around me.  Now I feel much better in that I am now focused on the right people.  I know that life is a matter of allowing yourself to be led to the places and people who are meant to bring gifts and acknowledge your gifts as well.  It has been a process but this is how I think it all happened for me: I got off the wrong bus: Just as when you get on the wrong bus to where you want to end up going being in the wrong relationships and friendships can be just as crucial if not more important.  Once you have established that the people that surround you are not right for you and not celebrating who you are it is best to get off that bus and get on the one that leads to where you want to go in life.  Doing this may be the hardest thing that we do for ourselves but it is the most important and life altering thing we should do for our own highest g