What others think of you

I find it interesting that people are so compelled to tell others what they think of them without provocation or invitation.  My loving grandmother nor my background in Spiritual Psychology could have prepared me for an email I recently received from someone who apparently got up in the morning and needed to express their anger. I think the first thing that came to mind was that if this person were in front of me that perhaps there would have been the proper filter that would have made the message less venom or more dignified, but then again who would know.  Once the darkness faded and my heart and mind aligned itself to love I realized that what this person said to me was not only unkind, it was likely projection and past pain expressing.  I have since worked on forgiveness and forwardness, allowing myself to get back on my life path and doing more of what I know brings me joy.  To those of you out there whose boundaries have been crossed and someone has attempted to place labels and traits onto you that are not yours, simply begin by affirming that this "stuff" does not belong to you and say it clearly from your heart, "this stuff does not belong to me".  Then go about the business of being more of who you know you are versus that person's perception of you.  At the same time set your boundaries and protect your spirit by not participating but in fact taking yourself out of the equation.  There is nothing more healing than a dose of what Iyanla Vanzant refers to as, "telling the truth".  In this case tell yourself the truth of who you, honoring that truth in a way that affirms you and says that you love yourself.  I respectfully end this by sharing, "what you think of me is none of my business".     

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  1. AkioNovember 11, 2012 at 9:30 PM

    This is an unfortunate side-effect of the current digital age. We are no longer required to make difficult decisions or interactions with one another. We are afforded the luxury of anonymity in free speech, but rarely do many now consider the ramifications of such impulsive actions. The truth is often too arduous for folks these days.

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