TAKE THE BUT OUT
Tonight I decided to go to my partner's volleyball game. It's fun just to watch him transform into a kind of alpah male. He loves the game and I like watching him transform into the hulk persona. I enjoyed the game, he played very well and his team triumphed. Obviously it takes believing he can do it and having the confidence that he is skilled at the game. I don't think he is thinking: "I can win but the other team is better than us" or that in his mind he is saying, "I want to win but the other team has taller players".
The part of my story tonight that I want to focus in on is the but word and how this word has become a common addition to what we say, think and feel. It is this word that takes away from the power of our thoughts and the power of our actions and we have become so accustomed to it that it glides out of our mouth and into our mind like water. It is almost as if it is natural for us to put it into our thoughts right after we are pondering something we would like to do or love to accomplish. We are all guilty of it using sentences like:
I would like to finish my degree but I am too old to go back to school.
I want to look great but I don't have the kind of money it takes to buy beautiful garments.
I would like a better job where I am happier but jobs are hard to find and I won't get paid more in a new job.
We all could omit the but word more and simply start by taking it out of our normal conversations with others and inside of our mind. The logical word to replace it with is the word "and" which is a word that invites us to add something positive to our thoughts, our dreams and our life. Instead of the word but we can use the word and. This new word asks us what else is there in the equation and what else can we add to the mix that will encourage us to see our situations more positively. It would sound like this:
I would like to finish my degree and I am going to figure out how I can do this effectively.
I want to look great and I know that I can do this on my budget.
I want a better job where I am more joyful and I am going to update my resume tonight.
The next time you catch yourself using the word but purposely replace it with the word and. The more that you do this the more you will begin to see the possibilities. When you "take the but out" it is the first step to thinking of situations differently and instead of convincing yourself that you can't you will feel more empowered that you can.
The part of my story tonight that I want to focus in on is the but word and how this word has become a common addition to what we say, think and feel. It is this word that takes away from the power of our thoughts and the power of our actions and we have become so accustomed to it that it glides out of our mouth and into our mind like water. It is almost as if it is natural for us to put it into our thoughts right after we are pondering something we would like to do or love to accomplish. We are all guilty of it using sentences like:
I would like to finish my degree but I am too old to go back to school.
I want to look great but I don't have the kind of money it takes to buy beautiful garments.
I would like a better job where I am happier but jobs are hard to find and I won't get paid more in a new job.
We all could omit the but word more and simply start by taking it out of our normal conversations with others and inside of our mind. The logical word to replace it with is the word "and" which is a word that invites us to add something positive to our thoughts, our dreams and our life. Instead of the word but we can use the word and. This new word asks us what else is there in the equation and what else can we add to the mix that will encourage us to see our situations more positively. It would sound like this:
I would like to finish my degree and I am going to figure out how I can do this effectively.
I want to look great and I know that I can do this on my budget.
I want a better job where I am more joyful and I am going to update my resume tonight.
The next time you catch yourself using the word but purposely replace it with the word and. The more that you do this the more you will begin to see the possibilities. When you "take the but out" it is the first step to thinking of situations differently and instead of convincing yourself that you can't you will feel more empowered that you can.
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