He's Not Into You?
The fact that women even bother with men who are non-attentive and non-comital is beyond me, unless she really wants to be in a causal only relationship. Like men, women can select the men that are the ones who they believe are of interest and who are substantial. Yet many women settle for men who don't meet their standards when on the other hand men usually do not. Men pick women who they have evaluated over time and one they get to know. While many women do the same many others settle believing that one day they will change the man who is basically a frog into a prince. This blog is not for the discerning women but for those who have found themselves believing that a man is eventually going to become attentive to them when all the signs say they have absolutely no intention to do that. In fact knowing when men are not that into you is crucial to living a life where you just don't waste time on men who are "not that into you". Here are some signs:
1. He waits for you to call him:
Men who are not into you don't call you. They wait for you to call them. This is the very first sign that a man is simply not interested or at the very least not interested in who you are. Waiting for a man to call you is not smart and calling him after days of him not contacting you sends the message that you are desperate. If he does not call you take it to mean: "don't call me I'll call you". Don't call and don't wait for him to call. If he happens to call then consider him a candidate if you are in fact interested in him.
2. He calls you late at night for a; yes: "Butty call":
Men who don't respect women call them late at night for what is usually a "butty call". No man will call a woman they respect at 1am in the morning. More often than not a late night call is about him getting what he wants and we all know what that is. Responding to the call is bad enough but actually entertaining a conversation or going to his place is truly a mistake. Any respectable woman does not respond to men that call them at some indecent hour of the night.
3. He doesn't invite you over for dinner, out to a movie and...:
When a man does not invite you to dinner or a movie or both he is telling you how insignificant you are. He is sharing that he has no intention of spending money for a date and that you are not date or relationship worthy. Men who like you will invite you out and include you in their fun activities. Men who are into you will be proud to be with you in public and spend a few bucks at the same time.
4. He calls whenever:
If you don't know when a man will call you if at all or when that is a poor sign. It is in fact a red flag. Men who call whenever could be ones that are married and cannot call you on an ongoing basis. Men who call when they feel like it are not into you and not interested in a serious relationship. Unless you are OK with it, this may be the guy you may want to run away from. Yes, in the opposite direction.
5. He has not initiated intimacy and not explained why:
Over a long period of time men who do not initiate physical intimacy are likely not attracted to you. They are likely with you for other benefits whatever those benefits are for them. They are in with you in order to get what they need whether it is emotional or financial. It is especially important to note this when you have been seeing him for months, unless they explain why: celibacy, religious beliefs and other reasons. When a man does not initiate intimacy with you it is a sure sign that they are truly "not into you".
Most women know the signs of a man who is not genuinely interested in them. These are only some of the most common yellow or red flags. A woman who loves herself knows that being with a man intimately on a first meeting is likely not the best way to start a relationship that is respectful. Although men should have to meet the same standards as women that fact remains that this is not the case. Men can go from woman to woman and be considered cool yet women who do the same are thought of as unethical or bad. I am a woman's advocate and believe that it is unfair for women to be measured with a different ruler yet what I know is that women who know this live their life in accordance with their own highest good. When a man is not that into you, as they say, a woman's best response is to keep walking: yes, in the other direction.
1. He waits for you to call him:
Men who are not into you don't call you. They wait for you to call them. This is the very first sign that a man is simply not interested or at the very least not interested in who you are. Waiting for a man to call you is not smart and calling him after days of him not contacting you sends the message that you are desperate. If he does not call you take it to mean: "don't call me I'll call you". Don't call and don't wait for him to call. If he happens to call then consider him a candidate if you are in fact interested in him.
2. He calls you late at night for a; yes: "Butty call":
Men who don't respect women call them late at night for what is usually a "butty call". No man will call a woman they respect at 1am in the morning. More often than not a late night call is about him getting what he wants and we all know what that is. Responding to the call is bad enough but actually entertaining a conversation or going to his place is truly a mistake. Any respectable woman does not respond to men that call them at some indecent hour of the night.
3. He doesn't invite you over for dinner, out to a movie and...:
When a man does not invite you to dinner or a movie or both he is telling you how insignificant you are. He is sharing that he has no intention of spending money for a date and that you are not date or relationship worthy. Men who like you will invite you out and include you in their fun activities. Men who are into you will be proud to be with you in public and spend a few bucks at the same time.
4. He calls whenever:
If you don't know when a man will call you if at all or when that is a poor sign. It is in fact a red flag. Men who call whenever could be ones that are married and cannot call you on an ongoing basis. Men who call when they feel like it are not into you and not interested in a serious relationship. Unless you are OK with it, this may be the guy you may want to run away from. Yes, in the opposite direction.
5. He has not initiated intimacy and not explained why:
Over a long period of time men who do not initiate physical intimacy are likely not attracted to you. They are likely with you for other benefits whatever those benefits are for them. They are in with you in order to get what they need whether it is emotional or financial. It is especially important to note this when you have been seeing him for months, unless they explain why: celibacy, religious beliefs and other reasons. When a man does not initiate intimacy with you it is a sure sign that they are truly "not into you".
Most women know the signs of a man who is not genuinely interested in them. These are only some of the most common yellow or red flags. A woman who loves herself knows that being with a man intimately on a first meeting is likely not the best way to start a relationship that is respectful. Although men should have to meet the same standards as women that fact remains that this is not the case. Men can go from woman to woman and be considered cool yet women who do the same are thought of as unethical or bad. I am a woman's advocate and believe that it is unfair for women to be measured with a different ruler yet what I know is that women who know this live their life in accordance with their own highest good. When a man is not that into you, as they say, a woman's best response is to keep walking: yes, in the other direction.
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