Coach Elliott

We have all done it, made up stories, ones that we believe and ones that run our life.  We hold on to past experiences and we relive it over and over until we make ourselves ill and make others around us want to run away from us.  These stories are ones we have spun from the pain we experienced that we continue to hold on to.  Unable to let it go we simply relive it and actually add to our life story in a way that does not serve us.  When we do this we stay stuck in that story because we won't let go of it.  We may believe that we are justified in reliving and retelling our story but every time we do we become more of that old story, one that we refuse to let go and one we must release in order to live our new and more positive life.  Letting go of the stories we have held onto or so long is crucial and there are ways to do just that. Writing our old story and then our new story is one tangible way to let go of the old story.  Taking a minimum of an...

I recall a conversation with a friend of mine whom I know is a feminist where I shared me view about  the goddess energy.  One of the things I shared from my heart was that I felt as though women have a power men do not and that it comes from the goddess energy.  As the conversation continued to unfold she said to me; "I never viewed it that way".  I was shocked but at the same time realized that like many women she too had been shamed about her  inner and outer feminine goddess and that in some way she was taught  to suppress it out of that same shame and fear that others have instilled.  I shared other views about the power of the goddess and the way that the goddess is able to navigate otherwise difficult situations by being soft and empowered inside.  Each moment felt like an "aha" moment for her and at the end of the dialog she thanked me.  Although I have always known the power of the goddess it felt as though sharing my loving observat...

Today I celebrated Mother's Day with my two daughters.  I had a lovely time yet what I felt in the air was their desire to have their mother here with them.  She should have not died at 63 and not have seen her most recently born granddaughter, Amelia Luz, named after her and her mother.  There was an evident void today not having that matriarch with us with all the splendor and joy that she was to them.  Nothing I could of done would have made any difference although I did all that I could to make certain they knew what wonderful mothers they are to their children and the legacy that they carry on as goddesses and as women.  Still it was a good day and each of us made every effort to be present for one another and as usual there was food and time to relax and simply be. For all of the mothers out there I would like to say thank you.  I for one am grateful for the mother who held me in her womb for nine months and labored to see to it that I was born into...

As some of you might be aware Steve Harvey wrote a book of the same title so I would like to give that wonderful man credit for the title of my blog.  Hopefully he won't come after me to sue me.  What I know about this statement is that it has a much deeper meaning than we men may think.  In fact it has profound meaning to me and will speak to my own experience as a man.  What I hope is that some men read this and apply it in their relationships with women: their partners, their wives, their daughter and the women they work with.  With this said I would like to admit to one very important aspect of myself and that is that I am a "feminist".  Here's what I think about how men can embrace their feminine energy and better communicate with the women in their lives: Of the many women I have coached most have admitted that they prefer a man who is masculine and that acts like a man.  These women have expressed that they are way OK with men being gentlemen ...

For so long we have believed that the goddess was solely a symbol of the feminine and only about women.  Many have viewed being feminine as being weak and that being subservient was something that came with being a woman.  There has been so many negative connotations that even women have struggled with celebrating their inner feminine goddess believing that being more masculine would get them further in life.  Although accessing the divine masculine can be helpful to a woman and her rise in a business setting for example, there is good reason to celebrate and allow the inner goddess to come forward and be empowered as only a goddess can become empowered.  I think that the main false belief is that being a goddess and being feminine is weak yet the truth is that there is a unique and empowered element to the goddess. My own personal experience with the empowered goddess can be traced back to my great grandmother and my grandmother.  What I witnessed was a subtl...

I was one of those males who grew up around strong women.  My great grandmother, my grandmother and my mother were all women who were empowered, self-assured and at the same time expressed a divine feminine without censorship.  What I learned very early in life was that the goddess energy was powerful but more so empowering and compassionate.  It was something I witnessed in the women around me and it felt beautiful to me.  I was likely one of those men who respected the goddess from a very early age and that understood that the feminine was not just in them but in me.  Although I did not want to be feminine or like a female I did fully embrace the goddess energy. For me the goddess energy is a loving energy yet and empowered frequency.  Women have the most goddess energy and although it may seem to be traditional thinking I believe that women have the most goddess energy and that it is natural and organic.  In other words it is a part of being a wom...

Recently an FB friend posted the loss of her father and added that she wanted to keep his phone.  She felt silly sharing it and admitted it.  I reread the post and thought, "no, that's not silly at all".  I understand why someone would like to hold on to a part of someone they love and that part does not need to seem valuable or important to others but rather important to the person who is addressing a loss.  I remember a client sharing her love for a bracelet left to her by her grandmother.  She told me that when she wore the bracelet it made her feel empowered as a female.  It was to me not just a loving thought towards her grandmother but the possibility that her grandmother's energy was inside that object that she once wore. Although it may for some be a good ideas to release the belongings of a loved one there are good reasons to maintain a keepsake.  This may sound odd to some yet to me it makes perfect sense.  By keeping something of the ...

Most of us single folks have endured the messages and questions about being single and the suggestions about how to find "true love".  The fact remains that being single is misrepresented and misinterpreted.  For some of us being single and happy is more about accepting ourselves and being happily married to our self.  It is in that energy that I share this with all of you: Learn to Love You:  There is one truth in life and that is that we would rather love someone else than to focus on the fact that we don't love ourselves.  Hence we don't learn how to love ourselves fully because we are the last person we think needs it.  Learning to love ourselves is hard work but it is worthwhile.  The fact remains that if you don't love yourself you will never love someone else fully and be happy. Let Love Come To You:  In this age of computers we are looking for love faster then we can deal with it.  We can easily find a date or a "hook up" but th...

Silence is healing and yet many of us are busy chattering and avoiding silence.   We tend to find silence awkward  and uncomfortable.  We don't know what to do with it and as a result we talk, talk, talk our heads off.  We are avoiding our thoughts because we believe that they may be too painful.  I silence we become fearful because now it is only us and our thoughts, nothing to deter us from the truth.  We keep ourselves busy so that we are not sitting in silence and yet the very thing we are avoiding is the very thing that will heal us.  Silence is really a way to hold reverence and we should intentionally hold ourselves reverent every day by becoming silent.  It is the very thing we need to destress and rebuild our inner strength.   Mediation is a way to become silent and let go of the chatter that makes us feel anxious.  When we meditate we are giving ourselves a chance to bring in the light of life and gather our feelings. ...

With all of the dating sights on line one might think that the best way to meet that dream person is online.  I wonder if this is true given the fact that many people have reported otherwise and the statistics will tell you just how dangerous it is.  While some people may have met "Mr. Right" or "Miss Universe" there are many who have met their worse nightmare.  Like the lady in her sixties who met a man who sold himself as a war hero, attended a White House event and then found out that it was all a lie and that he'd drained her of all her money.   This is only one of many dark stories of women meeting men on the internet yet we still think this to be the best way to meet the right guy or girl.   My daughters have never used online dating sights.  The oldest has been married for over ten years and the youngest still believes that love will come if it is meant to be.  I have to agree with her and say that what is for you will come to you.  You d...