Sure Fire Loving Acts
For a very long time I have professed to people I coach how important it is to do things for ourselves that are self-loving and how this lifts us up, providing clarity and joy. For some of us doing self-loving things speak to this inner voice that says that we are "selfish". I want to be clear in saying that it is in fact selfish and that there does not need to be anything wrong with being selfish and doing things for oneself that are kind, compassionate, joyful, intentional and fun. Being in a place of giving ourselves what we need helps us become more helpful and connected with others because when we are happy so will the others we love around us. It is really that simple.
Let's talk about some self loving acts that will lift you up and that may make perfect sense or challenge you to become more centered on yourself and less focused on everyone else when you need it and believe me when I say this: You will need it.
Dinner: Make yourself a dinner or go out to dinner alone. When you do this you are saying that you are important enough to take the time to make a healthy and tasty meal. It is one of the nicest things you can do for yourself.
Flowers: Buy some flowers for yourself on the way home. They can be five dollars at Trader Joe's or Walmart. Place them in a beautiful vase and put them next to your bed. Fragrant ones remind us that not only can we see something of beauty for ourselves we can smell it as well. Flowers say I love me and it is OK to love yourself.
Movies: Watch a movie at home or at the theater. Make some popcorn and enjoy your own company for the evening. There is really nothing better than putting your feet up and watching an old movie or going to a theater with loungers.
A gift: Being yourself a small gift on occasion will lift your inner spirit. Find a small gift even if it is a pair of mod socks or a new white top. When it is your birthday buy it in celebration of your life. Be the first person to buy yourself what you love and then the other gifts will be the icing on the cake of your life.
Walk in nature: Take a walk in the forest preserves closest to you. Go to the nearest park or beach and take your shoes off. Take the time to lay down on a blanket and just look up at the massive beautiful sky. Daydream while you are at it.
Go see a performance or orchestra: Find a local theater and attend a play or musical performance. Have a lovely formal date with yourself. Get dressed up and have dinner beforehand.
Light the candles: My favorite way to say I am loving myself is by lighting all 12 of the hurricanes and votives with tea lights and putting on some music or watching TV. It is a special kind of action to do that is not common for us to think of yet it makes us feel special and loved. It is also like a spiritual ritual of sorts that feels magical.
Take a bubble bath: Fill the tub with bubbles, light candles, put on some music and take a long bath. Have the tools you need to pamper yourself: a back brush, a loofa sponge, fragrant soap, a foot stone, great shampoo and conditioner. Give yourself some pampering by pouring water over yourself with a beautiful sponge. Take your time.
Sit outdoors and read or: Take some time to sit on your deck or porch. Get a hanging chair and add some large pillows to make it ultra comfy. Read and play some soft music or close your eyes and meditate for a few minutes listening to beautiful spa music. Take a good hour for yourself and let the sounds of nature take you in.
Breath with intention: There are various ways to breath to calm yourself and to destress. Try one of them and hold your hand over your heart. Keep your eyes closed and just sit and breath deeply and then w it's intention for at least ten minutes.
Creating a beautiful environment is likely the key to self love. When you are in a clean, functional and comfortable home you feel loved. It is just how it works. Consider living in a place the speaks to your soul where you feel enveloped by beauty and by love.
Until the next time: Coach Elliott
Let's talk about some self loving acts that will lift you up and that may make perfect sense or challenge you to become more centered on yourself and less focused on everyone else when you need it and believe me when I say this: You will need it.
Dinner: Make yourself a dinner or go out to dinner alone. When you do this you are saying that you are important enough to take the time to make a healthy and tasty meal. It is one of the nicest things you can do for yourself.
Flowers: Buy some flowers for yourself on the way home. They can be five dollars at Trader Joe's or Walmart. Place them in a beautiful vase and put them next to your bed. Fragrant ones remind us that not only can we see something of beauty for ourselves we can smell it as well. Flowers say I love me and it is OK to love yourself.
Movies: Watch a movie at home or at the theater. Make some popcorn and enjoy your own company for the evening. There is really nothing better than putting your feet up and watching an old movie or going to a theater with loungers.
A gift: Being yourself a small gift on occasion will lift your inner spirit. Find a small gift even if it is a pair of mod socks or a new white top. When it is your birthday buy it in celebration of your life. Be the first person to buy yourself what you love and then the other gifts will be the icing on the cake of your life.
Walk in nature: Take a walk in the forest preserves closest to you. Go to the nearest park or beach and take your shoes off. Take the time to lay down on a blanket and just look up at the massive beautiful sky. Daydream while you are at it.
Go see a performance or orchestra: Find a local theater and attend a play or musical performance. Have a lovely formal date with yourself. Get dressed up and have dinner beforehand.
Light the candles: My favorite way to say I am loving myself is by lighting all 12 of the hurricanes and votives with tea lights and putting on some music or watching TV. It is a special kind of action to do that is not common for us to think of yet it makes us feel special and loved. It is also like a spiritual ritual of sorts that feels magical.
Take a bubble bath: Fill the tub with bubbles, light candles, put on some music and take a long bath. Have the tools you need to pamper yourself: a back brush, a loofa sponge, fragrant soap, a foot stone, great shampoo and conditioner. Give yourself some pampering by pouring water over yourself with a beautiful sponge. Take your time.
Sit outdoors and read or: Take some time to sit on your deck or porch. Get a hanging chair and add some large pillows to make it ultra comfy. Read and play some soft music or close your eyes and meditate for a few minutes listening to beautiful spa music. Take a good hour for yourself and let the sounds of nature take you in.
Breath with intention: There are various ways to breath to calm yourself and to destress. Try one of them and hold your hand over your heart. Keep your eyes closed and just sit and breath deeply and then w it's intention for at least ten minutes.
Creating a beautiful environment is likely the key to self love. When you are in a clean, functional and comfortable home you feel loved. It is just how it works. Consider living in a place the speaks to your soul where you feel enveloped by beauty and by love.
Until the next time: Coach Elliott
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