Family
There is nothing more telling of life than being with family, sometimes pleasant and sometimes not so lovely. Being with family today was mostly a good experience and there were reminders of some of the dysfunctional connections and the emotional games we play.
One of the things that I noted was how we vie for attention. We all long to be heard by everyone else and each of us takes our turn at dancing the ritualistic "see me" dance. Each of us want to know that everyone else loves us and we reach out to each person, one at a time, exchanging jokes and exchanging loving touch. I would say that especially us Latino folks, we have a higher expectation of fun and we love the colorful language and also read the subtle nuances. We are having a high level of amusement and we are passionate about our social interaction.
At family functions we practice how we will be and we reminisce about how it should be. We give each person time to be with us and we look for any clues in people's body language that may be an indicator of something that needs an application of love. Our overall goal is to heal as much of the past that needs healing and to forgive and forget and enjoy the moment. We let go of the past circumstances and we bond even with the people who may not be aligned with our thinking, knowing that family is family.
Family time is a precious and important time and opportunity for us all. It is a chance to not just connect but to become more connected and remember all that is good about family. Today was a lovely day with family and each moment was a gift we gave each other. Having this quality time together warms our hearts and fills our spirit for a long time to come.
I will carry this time with me for days to come, perhaps for the next few months knowing just how special my family is. It may be that we are not perfect and certainly we don't appear to be perfect but we are genuine and we truly love each other. We show our love, we are passionate about that, we are excited for the time we spend together and we do it with purpose. I for one feel honored to be a part of this family. A family that loves me and no matter how many faults we have we are able to still respect the fact that we are different from each other.
I want to invite all of you to look closer at your family and to create times together for the purpose of demonstrating how much you love and appreciate each other. No one will ever take the place of family and no one will ever love you more. Be it disfunctional, be it light, be it heavy or be it dark. We are familia.
One of the things that I noted was how we vie for attention. We all long to be heard by everyone else and each of us takes our turn at dancing the ritualistic "see me" dance. Each of us want to know that everyone else loves us and we reach out to each person, one at a time, exchanging jokes and exchanging loving touch. I would say that especially us Latino folks, we have a higher expectation of fun and we love the colorful language and also read the subtle nuances. We are having a high level of amusement and we are passionate about our social interaction.
At family functions we practice how we will be and we reminisce about how it should be. We give each person time to be with us and we look for any clues in people's body language that may be an indicator of something that needs an application of love. Our overall goal is to heal as much of the past that needs healing and to forgive and forget and enjoy the moment. We let go of the past circumstances and we bond even with the people who may not be aligned with our thinking, knowing that family is family.
Family time is a precious and important time and opportunity for us all. It is a chance to not just connect but to become more connected and remember all that is good about family. Today was a lovely day with family and each moment was a gift we gave each other. Having this quality time together warms our hearts and fills our spirit for a long time to come.
I will carry this time with me for days to come, perhaps for the next few months knowing just how special my family is. It may be that we are not perfect and certainly we don't appear to be perfect but we are genuine and we truly love each other. We show our love, we are passionate about that, we are excited for the time we spend together and we do it with purpose. I for one feel honored to be a part of this family. A family that loves me and no matter how many faults we have we are able to still respect the fact that we are different from each other.
I want to invite all of you to look closer at your family and to create times together for the purpose of demonstrating how much you love and appreciate each other. No one will ever take the place of family and no one will ever love you more. Be it disfunctional, be it light, be it heavy or be it dark. We are familia.
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