Old Story New Story

I must admit there are times when I relive my old stories and I feel just as upset, angry, sad or resentful as I did when it happened.  Things that occurred to me so many years ago can still have this electrical charge inside of me that one would not imagine, but yet the truth is that it does.

For me it has been an incident that happened with a family member of my partner that takes me back to such darkness that my stomach aches.  I think about the mean things this person said to me and how cruel it was to be whipped with information that I had shared with my partner in confidence about my life and struggles.  Having someone insult us with our own information without any compassion or consideration of privacy is simply a one way road to sheer and utter rage.  Yet what we must learn from these situations is that people use others misgivings to make themselves feel important or worthy or even better than others and that this kind of mean behaviour will eventually come back to bite them.  I guess in a way that might be my wish more than the reality yet I cannot help but to think that "what goes around comes around".

If we continue to allow others to have the power to make us relive the old stories then we will in fact stay in our own personal nightmare.  We will be in this constant nightmare until we awaken to our spirit and until we replace the old story with the new one.  The new one being one that focuses on the people and things in our life that really matter and the new story is the one that chooses to let the old story die.  In the end whatever happened in the past is never ever ever going to be changed.  It is not possible and so we should consider moving into the new story.

The new story is a story about all the possibilities.  In our new story we begin fresh and for some it is a once in a lifetime chance to have a life that looks and feels completely different.  When we move into our new story we are saying yes to life and we are embracing whatever comes our way with a sense of excitement and through the eyes of our inner kid.  Beginning our new story requires not just letting go of the old one but rather letting the new one shine through and believing that we are not that story but rather that it is something that happened, not something that defines us.

So start to envision your new story right now and feel it deep inside of you.  Create a ritual of letting go and if that looks like a voodoo ceremony or a candle vigil don't be fearful of doing it.  It takes courage to begin a new story and sometimes it even takes some creativity.  Of course as I usually suggest, write your new story beginning with: "In my new story I am..."  

I feel like there is something missing and as though I need to say something profound needed as an ending to this BLOG.  I will end it by reminding myself and you that what happened to us in the past doesn't define who we are today unless we want it to.  We stay stuck when we believe that our past defines us and that there is nothing we can do about it.  We stay stuck in our old story when we believe that what happened to us that wasn't pleasant has to follow us around the rest of our lives.