Pain Center
Our pain center is the place where our pain is and where it is centered. To find our pain center we sometimes have to experience a lot of pain. To be in our pain center we have to admit that we are in pain and find out what we are in pain about. To know and be in touch with our pain does not mean that we must worry 24 hours a day nor that we have to be depressed or sad all the time. Some people interpret my saying this as a ticket to complaining to others and taking a negative stance all the time. Everything turns into pain and everything is a terrible dilemma, but it does not have to be that way. God says to us: "help thyself and I will help you" and he means it. If we are in our pain center we are checking in with our pain and then we are navigating through our pain. We are not taking our pain in and drowning in it no matter what others say.
Pain is natural. Pain is a part of life. We have the physical pain and then we have the emotional pain. Deeper inside is the spiritual pain from lack of faith and from the lack of going deeper. We see the pain and we ignore it and then we wonder why we cannot come out the other side. Well the reason that we cannot come out the other side is because we are not acknowledging the pain but rather denying the pain. Why do we do this? I speculate that the majority of people do this because they think they cannot endure the pain and they don't want others to see them in pain and others don't know what to do with their pain. Such was the case for my friend. He did not know what to do with my pain and I looked at it as him being ignorant rather than knowing this was an issue of his all his life. He wasn't allowed to feel his pain nor did anyone see his pain as real. So it made sense that he could not see others pain. And the irony is that he's a nurse. Wow.
Pain can be overcome. The way that we know it is that we have overcome it before so we know we can and will do it again. We can overcome the pain in many tactful and useful ways. One is to take the remedy that addresses the pain. It could be a pill but then again it could be therapy. Get a massage, get a haircut. Go on a vacation. Look for the best way to address your pain center. Hold your heart in your hand and rub your chest. Let the pain show up for you and be honest about it.
Don't try to hide from your pain. Look directly at your pain, see it in front of you. Look it in the eyes squarely. Don't try to just get rid of it and think that this is going to make it go away. Remember:
"rain, rain go away, come again some other day"? Pain pain go away, come again some other day is a good start but remember it will and may take more than that to rid yourself of the pain until the next time. What I remember is that tomorrow is another day and that I will feel better because you cannot go down from here Elliott Collazo.Then the pain finds it's center, where it is more balanced with joy and where it is no longer so powerful.
Some of us love the pain we are in because we are comfortable in it. I have a good friend who I will refer to as "D" who was the kind of person who saw her pain, got stuck in it and would exaggerate it. She would make it bigger and bigger. She would drown in it because she was determined to do so. She would talk about her pain to exhaustion. I would listen to her pain, for 15 years to be exact, and I became centered in her pain until it was painful for me and she became a royal "pain in the ass". I hate to say this and I hope she does not read this but if she does I will only focus on the many times I gave her a referral for one group or another to support her pain and maybe someday help her to address it. Nothing worked and short of my going crazy on her I decided to release her to goddess as a person and friend. I was thrilled to one day say to her that I no longer wanted to own her pain and that I was sorry to have given her the wrong impression. More recently I sympathized with her because she was allowing herself to lose her condo. The people who supported that just said to her that it was OK but the truth is that they now own her condo and can rent it out. Of course they are fine with taking it from her and they will benefit. I on the other hand thought about how great it would be for her to rent it out.
Pain is our teacher or should I say more accurately that Pain is MY teacher. I don't want to tell your all who or what is your teacher but yet I want to become a teacher and a student of pain. I have felt the physical pain and in fact am medicated from it, still not knowing why I still am feeling the discomfort when microwaved like a piece of meat. Why are we in such pain? What shall we do with our pain? Where do we need to go with our pain? Only you know the answer to these questions. Where will I go with my pain? I will go to god with my pain. Who will I talk to about my pain? I will talk to Buda about my pain. Why am I in such pain? Because I am not yet in a place of centering my pain and navigating through it fairly and in a balanced way. I want to be a victim instead of being with my pain or I ignore my pain for so long it becomes obvious to me and I get more pain centered. I see my pain and I want to ask you to look at yours. The physical pain is only one part and one has to look at the emotional aspect and the spiritual pain. Look at your pain. Look at it straight up. It is like the song "Talk Dirty to Me" where this rapper singer is looking at his pain and sexual needs right in the eyes, boldly repeating to his lover to talk dirty to him and to sit in his lap. That kind of honestly is way better than ignorance and judgements. I can chose to judge others for the songs and the lyrics they love or I can just see it as their expression of love and pain. Music will heal you but then again that is another long subject for the next time.
To be continued...
Elliott Collazo Maximo Perez
Pain is natural. Pain is a part of life. We have the physical pain and then we have the emotional pain. Deeper inside is the spiritual pain from lack of faith and from the lack of going deeper. We see the pain and we ignore it and then we wonder why we cannot come out the other side. Well the reason that we cannot come out the other side is because we are not acknowledging the pain but rather denying the pain. Why do we do this? I speculate that the majority of people do this because they think they cannot endure the pain and they don't want others to see them in pain and others don't know what to do with their pain. Such was the case for my friend. He did not know what to do with my pain and I looked at it as him being ignorant rather than knowing this was an issue of his all his life. He wasn't allowed to feel his pain nor did anyone see his pain as real. So it made sense that he could not see others pain. And the irony is that he's a nurse. Wow.
Pain can be overcome. The way that we know it is that we have overcome it before so we know we can and will do it again. We can overcome the pain in many tactful and useful ways. One is to take the remedy that addresses the pain. It could be a pill but then again it could be therapy. Get a massage, get a haircut. Go on a vacation. Look for the best way to address your pain center. Hold your heart in your hand and rub your chest. Let the pain show up for you and be honest about it.
Don't try to hide from your pain. Look directly at your pain, see it in front of you. Look it in the eyes squarely. Don't try to just get rid of it and think that this is going to make it go away. Remember:
"rain, rain go away, come again some other day"? Pain pain go away, come again some other day is a good start but remember it will and may take more than that to rid yourself of the pain until the next time. What I remember is that tomorrow is another day and that I will feel better because you cannot go down from here Elliott Collazo.Then the pain finds it's center, where it is more balanced with joy and where it is no longer so powerful.
Some of us love the pain we are in because we are comfortable in it. I have a good friend who I will refer to as "D" who was the kind of person who saw her pain, got stuck in it and would exaggerate it. She would make it bigger and bigger. She would drown in it because she was determined to do so. She would talk about her pain to exhaustion. I would listen to her pain, for 15 years to be exact, and I became centered in her pain until it was painful for me and she became a royal "pain in the ass". I hate to say this and I hope she does not read this but if she does I will only focus on the many times I gave her a referral for one group or another to support her pain and maybe someday help her to address it. Nothing worked and short of my going crazy on her I decided to release her to goddess as a person and friend. I was thrilled to one day say to her that I no longer wanted to own her pain and that I was sorry to have given her the wrong impression. More recently I sympathized with her because she was allowing herself to lose her condo. The people who supported that just said to her that it was OK but the truth is that they now own her condo and can rent it out. Of course they are fine with taking it from her and they will benefit. I on the other hand thought about how great it would be for her to rent it out.
Pain is our teacher or should I say more accurately that Pain is MY teacher. I don't want to tell your all who or what is your teacher but yet I want to become a teacher and a student of pain. I have felt the physical pain and in fact am medicated from it, still not knowing why I still am feeling the discomfort when microwaved like a piece of meat. Why are we in such pain? What shall we do with our pain? Where do we need to go with our pain? Only you know the answer to these questions. Where will I go with my pain? I will go to god with my pain. Who will I talk to about my pain? I will talk to Buda about my pain. Why am I in such pain? Because I am not yet in a place of centering my pain and navigating through it fairly and in a balanced way. I want to be a victim instead of being with my pain or I ignore my pain for so long it becomes obvious to me and I get more pain centered. I see my pain and I want to ask you to look at yours. The physical pain is only one part and one has to look at the emotional aspect and the spiritual pain. Look at your pain. Look at it straight up. It is like the song "Talk Dirty to Me" where this rapper singer is looking at his pain and sexual needs right in the eyes, boldly repeating to his lover to talk dirty to him and to sit in his lap. That kind of honestly is way better than ignorance and judgements. I can chose to judge others for the songs and the lyrics they love or I can just see it as their expression of love and pain. Music will heal you but then again that is another long subject for the next time.
To be continued...
Elliott Collazo Maximo Perez
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