Don't Look Back
I have recenlty deleted people from my FB or unfollowed them as well as some of my phone contacts. I did this in honor of myself and so that I am not tempted to look back. Looking back is continuing to communicate with people who rarely or ever are reciprocal. Although it may seem cruel to some taking people off of our lists and accepting them for who they are is growth. It is indeed more mature to take people off your list of loves than to continue to beat a dead horse, expecting them to be somthing they are not. As I have shared before there are givers and then there are takers and what I know of life is that there are many more takers.
Andrew was a middle aged man and had lost his wife not long before he met another woman who I will call Aida. Aida was a nice woman who was initially very overt and quite forward. Although Andrew felt a little uncomfortable by her going from zero to sixty he remained steadfast in giving her a chance to reveal herself. Over time he noted that Aida had gone from assertive to extremely pushy and often had plans for what they were to do going far into the future and making assumptions that seemd to intimate for Andrew. Eventually he had several talks with Aida about how he felt including a feeling of invasion of privacy when she shared tings about his personal life with other people. Finally he felt compelled to share it one more time after noting that Aida did not call for some time because he'd shared those feelings with her. Upon the last attempt Andrew made it clear how he felt about Aida and that there were no romantic feelings based on his experience with her. Aida did not take any accountability for her behaviors and it was then that Andrew knew he'd made the best decision. Although Andrew would have liked to coitinue as Aida's she was not in agreement. Since then Andrew has not looked back and in fact deleted her from his social media and other forms of contact. While Andrew waa skilled at remaining friends with the women he considered courting he decided it best not to pursue any connection with Aida based on the fact that she never once held herself accountable nor did she bother to apolgize to him or as much as share her concern. It was in fact validation for Andrew that what he saw in her was factual. Aida was a taker and an opportunistic person who went wherever she could get attention, money or a ride somewhere.
We must know who the people are in our life that are takers and let go of them. We must acknowledge abusive people and allow ourselves to release them with love. We can do this if we care enough about ourselves and are willing to move beyond the need to be with some of the people we know are users and takers. Letting go does not need to be dramatic and big. In fact it can be thoughtful and simple and soft. My encouragement to all of you out there that need to let go of someone in your life is to erase them from your mind and life. Don't keep believing they will change becasue they usually do not. People's awareness is what it is, just accept that.
In light and love,
Elliott Maximo Collazo
Andrew was a middle aged man and had lost his wife not long before he met another woman who I will call Aida. Aida was a nice woman who was initially very overt and quite forward. Although Andrew felt a little uncomfortable by her going from zero to sixty he remained steadfast in giving her a chance to reveal herself. Over time he noted that Aida had gone from assertive to extremely pushy and often had plans for what they were to do going far into the future and making assumptions that seemd to intimate for Andrew. Eventually he had several talks with Aida about how he felt including a feeling of invasion of privacy when she shared tings about his personal life with other people. Finally he felt compelled to share it one more time after noting that Aida did not call for some time because he'd shared those feelings with her. Upon the last attempt Andrew made it clear how he felt about Aida and that there were no romantic feelings based on his experience with her. Aida did not take any accountability for her behaviors and it was then that Andrew knew he'd made the best decision. Although Andrew would have liked to coitinue as Aida's she was not in agreement. Since then Andrew has not looked back and in fact deleted her from his social media and other forms of contact. While Andrew waa skilled at remaining friends with the women he considered courting he decided it best not to pursue any connection with Aida based on the fact that she never once held herself accountable nor did she bother to apolgize to him or as much as share her concern. It was in fact validation for Andrew that what he saw in her was factual. Aida was a taker and an opportunistic person who went wherever she could get attention, money or a ride somewhere.
We must know who the people are in our life that are takers and let go of them. We must acknowledge abusive people and allow ourselves to release them with love. We can do this if we care enough about ourselves and are willing to move beyond the need to be with some of the people we know are users and takers. Letting go does not need to be dramatic and big. In fact it can be thoughtful and simple and soft. My encouragement to all of you out there that need to let go of someone in your life is to erase them from your mind and life. Don't keep believing they will change becasue they usually do not. People's awareness is what it is, just accept that.
In light and love,
Elliott Maximo Collazo
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