Soft Core Abuse: Ten Things Disguised as Nice
Today I realized that my client was actually being abused because he told me so and you know what they say: " if someone tells you something believe it". It is truly hard for a man like him to admit abuse but he was forthright in seeing the light. Here are some things men and women disguise and that are abusive:
1. Shutting Out:
when your partner or friend shuts you out purposely to make you feel like you are the bad guy, a strategy often used by alcoholics who are either active or not or others struggling with some addiction.
2. Initiating Inappropriate Sex or sexual innuendo:
when your wife or husband brings a third party, suggests a third party or otherwise talks about inappropriate sexual acts that he or she has performed with what you may suspect are minors or very young adults, there is sometimes the underlying innuendo of he accuses you of sexual things or getting information from you to throw in your lap later, this includes him asking you to recantyour sexual experiences.
3. Verbal Bullying:
When someone constantly puts you down and then waits for you to lash back and then accuses you of being out of control. Verbal bullying can be as bad or worse than any physical abuse, men and women do this to render the other person helpless and it works often, usually this builds up over time and could be as long as years
4. Power struggle:
When the person you are with indicates why they have power over you: they insure you, they pay the bills, they own the home in their name or otherwise make you feel powerless so you will stay
5. Triangulation:
when the person you are with pits you with others, your friend, his friends or family members.
1. Shutting Out:
when your partner or friend shuts you out purposely to make you feel like you are the bad guy, a strategy often used by alcoholics who are either active or not or others struggling with some addiction.
2. Initiating Inappropriate Sex or sexual innuendo:
when your wife or husband brings a third party, suggests a third party or otherwise talks about inappropriate sexual acts that he or she has performed with what you may suspect are minors or very young adults, there is sometimes the underlying innuendo of he accuses you of sexual things or getting information from you to throw in your lap later, this includes him asking you to recantyour sexual experiences.
3. Verbal Bullying:
When someone constantly puts you down and then waits for you to lash back and then accuses you of being out of control. Verbal bullying can be as bad or worse than any physical abuse, men and women do this to render the other person helpless and it works often, usually this builds up over time and could be as long as years
4. Power struggle:
When the person you are with indicates why they have power over you: they insure you, they pay the bills, they own the home in their name or otherwise make you feel powerless so you will stay
5. Triangulation:
when the person you are with pits you with others, your friend, his friends or family members.
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