Best Way to Start Over: Your Lovely Life
For most of us, starting over is related to a break up, a divorce, ending a friendship or doing things differently than before. When we realize that something is missing in our life we can easily attribute it to something that has happened to us that is asking us to live life differently than before. Even though there is fear inside of us around starting over the best thing to do is to allow ourselves to grieve the past and give ourselves the permission to move into a new place in our life, one that looks more like what we wanted and needed all along. A life that is in our highest vibration and in our highest good.
Learning to start over again is a process that most of us have difficultly with but there are some simple ways to begin the life you really deserve:
Go on a vacation for 4-5 days:
After a break up or starting over one of the best things we can do is go on a short vacation. Taking 4-5 days off will help us to sort things out in our mind and take the time to feel our feelings in a neutral place. At the same time being alone and doing things that are fun or daring will provide us with the confidence you may need that confirms you can in fact make it all happen on our own. Taking that vacation and enjoying it will teach you that you don't have to be with anyone to have fun. Reaching out to strangers at the pool and playing volley ball with a group of people are just a couple of ways you can confirm that you are in fact OK being on your own.
Enroll in a class: dance, pottery, sewing...
One of the best things to do when you have decided to go it alone is to take a class. Although you may feel you are not ready to meet others a dance class can be very therapeutic and fun. Enroll in a sewing class at your local park district or an improvisational class at your local college. Do something you have been yearning to learn.
Revamp your bedroom/replace your bed:
Take that old mattress, the one you slept on with him or her and get rid of it. Buy some beautiful bedding in crisp white and add some decorative pillows. Turn your bedroom into a sanctuary that looks and feels like you and only you. Add your initial in the form of a large letter you place on the wall. Change your bedroom so that it looks nothing like it did when you were with that person that is now out of your life for good reason. If you believe in sage then cleanse the room by lighting some sage and blessing your bedroom, reclaiming it as yours alone.
Change your social MO:
Begin to become more social. Let others know you are now open to going out more and doing different things. Take yourself out to eat and then dancing. Take a dance lesson at your local club and consider doing some volunteer work. Become as social as you can doing things you have not done before and opening your heart up to others. Take the fear out of going out alone by practicing going out alone to a movie. Change your social habits.
Do self-nurturing daily:
Do something nice for yourself daily, however small. Make a nice meal, take yourself out for a walk or bike ride. Do things that make you feel good and make you feel your joyful self. Force yourself if you have to but do it. There are so many nice ways to be kind to yourself, the list is endless. Make a note every day that you will do something to love yourself each day.
Get rid of the memories:
As hard as it may be get rid of the memories: pictures, clothing, gifts included. Put away, give away, or simply throw things out that remind you of a situation you just don't want to continue to think about. Do it now.
Take time to meditate, pray, hold reverence/silence:
This one is easy. Take the time to pray, meditate to music or just be silent. At first take 10 minutes or so but eventually increase it to 30 minutes. Lay down, sit down, close your eyes or focus on a candle but make sure you take that time of reverence daily. It will heal you and you will understand it better once you get into the habit of holding your life sacred. Your spirit needs daily care as does everyone's spirit.
Go forth beloveds.
Elliott Maximo Collazo
Learning to start over again is a process that most of us have difficultly with but there are some simple ways to begin the life you really deserve:
Go on a vacation for 4-5 days:
After a break up or starting over one of the best things we can do is go on a short vacation. Taking 4-5 days off will help us to sort things out in our mind and take the time to feel our feelings in a neutral place. At the same time being alone and doing things that are fun or daring will provide us with the confidence you may need that confirms you can in fact make it all happen on our own. Taking that vacation and enjoying it will teach you that you don't have to be with anyone to have fun. Reaching out to strangers at the pool and playing volley ball with a group of people are just a couple of ways you can confirm that you are in fact OK being on your own.
Enroll in a class: dance, pottery, sewing...
One of the best things to do when you have decided to go it alone is to take a class. Although you may feel you are not ready to meet others a dance class can be very therapeutic and fun. Enroll in a sewing class at your local park district or an improvisational class at your local college. Do something you have been yearning to learn.
Revamp your bedroom/replace your bed:
Take that old mattress, the one you slept on with him or her and get rid of it. Buy some beautiful bedding in crisp white and add some decorative pillows. Turn your bedroom into a sanctuary that looks and feels like you and only you. Add your initial in the form of a large letter you place on the wall. Change your bedroom so that it looks nothing like it did when you were with that person that is now out of your life for good reason. If you believe in sage then cleanse the room by lighting some sage and blessing your bedroom, reclaiming it as yours alone.
Change your social MO:
Begin to become more social. Let others know you are now open to going out more and doing different things. Take yourself out to eat and then dancing. Take a dance lesson at your local club and consider doing some volunteer work. Become as social as you can doing things you have not done before and opening your heart up to others. Take the fear out of going out alone by practicing going out alone to a movie. Change your social habits.
Do self-nurturing daily:
Do something nice for yourself daily, however small. Make a nice meal, take yourself out for a walk or bike ride. Do things that make you feel good and make you feel your joyful self. Force yourself if you have to but do it. There are so many nice ways to be kind to yourself, the list is endless. Make a note every day that you will do something to love yourself each day.
Get rid of the memories:
As hard as it may be get rid of the memories: pictures, clothing, gifts included. Put away, give away, or simply throw things out that remind you of a situation you just don't want to continue to think about. Do it now.
Take time to meditate, pray, hold reverence/silence:
This one is easy. Take the time to pray, meditate to music or just be silent. At first take 10 minutes or so but eventually increase it to 30 minutes. Lay down, sit down, close your eyes or focus on a candle but make sure you take that time of reverence daily. It will heal you and you will understand it better once you get into the habit of holding your life sacred. Your spirit needs daily care as does everyone's spirit.
Go forth beloveds.
Elliott Maximo Collazo
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