Relationship Red Flags
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8. Is focused on what you are lacking:
When a person has much to say about the way you look they are likely not the person you would like to spend a long period of time with. They will make negative comments about the way you are dressed, your weight or the fact that you have too much make-up on. Anyone who is focused on making you feel you are not good enough as you are should raise a huge red flag. Even casual comment are a reason for concern.
9. Is needy and looking to be served over serving:
We know how needy people behave and even if we don't we will feel it because they will begin to wear us down from all their requests, often times on a daily basis. When the person you are seeing is needy and constantly asking to be served this is a reason to be concerned. Needy people ask too much of us and when they do it is hard to satisfy them. Many times needy people are not ones who like to give back or be reciprocal. Eventually a person who takes, takes and then takes some more is not one you will be happy with.
10. Makes excuses for their behaviors:
We are each responsible for our behavior and those who do not take responsibility for their behaviors are often times people who make excuses for what they are lacking or what they have done. These people will make an excuse for almost everything and are argumentative even about things they know they should have taken care of or done. Some fail to keep a job while others drink too much, never once taking responsibility for their habits.
11. Don't get along with your friends or dislike them:
When someone you are sharing your life with does not like your friends this is a very good indicator that he or she is not right for you. After all you selected your friends for a good reason, mainly because they are nice people. When a person does not like your friends they are not only not right for you but are likely people who are trying to control you by getting you further away from those who care for you and whom you have had a loving relationship with. It is very suspicious when a person does not like your friends and is a definite flag of concern.
12. Your friends do not like her or him:
On the other hand when your friends do not like your choice of person this is another very telling sign. In fact even before you chose someone it is a good idea to run them by your friends and see what they think when they have been around him or her in a social setting. Friends will catch things about someone that you may miss and are a good ruler for measuring a person you may want to be in a relationship with. In summary, if your friends do not like him or her there is likely a good reason to look closer and decide to say NO.
Red flags are not something we should ignore. In fact because people ignore them there have been some serious consequences like verbal abuse, physical abuse and more. Although it may seem hard to figure people out it is really very easy if we use our intuition and that thing we call our "gut feeling". We all know that feeling from the past about something or someone. Listen to your gut and give it a serious consideration. It is our intuition that could save us a lot of grief and even harm. If you think that someone is just too good to be true they probably are. If you feel like someone is jealous in an unhealthy level then they probably are. Using our intuition is a God given talent we all have and it is a way that we can know whether something or someone is not for us. In the end it is a good idea to take a closer look and note how a person is from the start. Any of the above red flags or combination of them should raise your suspicions and give you enough information about someone to ask yourself whether this person is right for you or not.
8. Is focused on what you are lacking:
When a person has much to say about the way you look they are likely not the person you would like to spend a long period of time with. They will make negative comments about the way you are dressed, your weight or the fact that you have too much make-up on. Anyone who is focused on making you feel you are not good enough as you are should raise a huge red flag. Even casual comment are a reason for concern.
9. Is needy and looking to be served over serving:
We know how needy people behave and even if we don't we will feel it because they will begin to wear us down from all their requests, often times on a daily basis. When the person you are seeing is needy and constantly asking to be served this is a reason to be concerned. Needy people ask too much of us and when they do it is hard to satisfy them. Many times needy people are not ones who like to give back or be reciprocal. Eventually a person who takes, takes and then takes some more is not one you will be happy with.
10. Makes excuses for their behaviors:
We are each responsible for our behavior and those who do not take responsibility for their behaviors are often times people who make excuses for what they are lacking or what they have done. These people will make an excuse for almost everything and are argumentative even about things they know they should have taken care of or done. Some fail to keep a job while others drink too much, never once taking responsibility for their habits.
11. Don't get along with your friends or dislike them:
When someone you are sharing your life with does not like your friends this is a very good indicator that he or she is not right for you. After all you selected your friends for a good reason, mainly because they are nice people. When a person does not like your friends they are not only not right for you but are likely people who are trying to control you by getting you further away from those who care for you and whom you have had a loving relationship with. It is very suspicious when a person does not like your friends and is a definite flag of concern.
12. Your friends do not like her or him:
On the other hand when your friends do not like your choice of person this is another very telling sign. In fact even before you chose someone it is a good idea to run them by your friends and see what they think when they have been around him or her in a social setting. Friends will catch things about someone that you may miss and are a good ruler for measuring a person you may want to be in a relationship with. In summary, if your friends do not like him or her there is likely a good reason to look closer and decide to say NO.
Red flags are not something we should ignore. In fact because people ignore them there have been some serious consequences like verbal abuse, physical abuse and more. Although it may seem hard to figure people out it is really very easy if we use our intuition and that thing we call our "gut feeling". We all know that feeling from the past about something or someone. Listen to your gut and give it a serious consideration. It is our intuition that could save us a lot of grief and even harm. If you think that someone is just too good to be true they probably are. If you feel like someone is jealous in an unhealthy level then they probably are. Using our intuition is a God given talent we all have and it is a way that we can know whether something or someone is not for us. In the end it is a good idea to take a closer look and note how a person is from the start. Any of the above red flags or combination of them should raise your suspicions and give you enough information about someone to ask yourself whether this person is right for you or not.
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