The Five Rules of Dating


I feel as though there are more than five dating rules but this is certainly a very good start.  I don't claim to be the expert in dating and what it good and not so good but I certainly qualify in life and experiences.  Now that I am 62 I have a little more under my belt than before and although I am not dating I am making lots of new friends which takes a certain amount of savvy.  Let's just be honest.  Many of us struggle with the do's and don't's of dating and it is nothing to be ashamed of so with all that out there let's talk about the five dating rules I think would be helpful:
1.  No sex for at least ninety days:
Please don't have sex right away.  It just fogs things up and is really not appropriate to do, period.  Have an agreement that there will be no sex for at least a few months.  I would like to say six months is the best time span to wait to have sex.  Intimacy like sex should be reserved for someone you get to know for a time and know you like something about them, hopefully more than one thing.

2.  Don't dig too deep or too shallow:
I think that the one big mistake people make is either saying too much or not saying enough.  When someone rants and rants we often times find that to be an issue and to say it nicely "a turn off".  We also find that people who expect us to continually lead the communication or have to pull their teeth to get them to talk is equally exhausting.  When we first date we should take care not to talk too much, listen more and participate by staying something of value.  It is my friends that simple.

3.  Listen more than you talk:
I touched on this in number two but this stands alone.  Do not talk and talk all the time.  Allow yourself a break in conversations and just listen.  Do not listen just to respond, listen to give honest and lovely thoughts.

4.  Look stunning:
I believe in looking good as much as you can all day every day.  I don't see why this is an issue for anyone.  A person who takes that time to look great, dress nicely and care for their body is a person worth meeting and maybe settling in with.  Looking like a slob may be pleasant to some but looking great is pleasant to everyone.  When you are dating looking sharp is always a turn on.  Looking good is also the first step to feeling good and even if it is not, it helps.

5.  Be authentic and honest:
Show less of your flaws but show them, Do not hide who you are.  The person you are dating needs to know that you have your moments and when that occurs take note as so how the other person responds to you.  If they see your ugly side and get scared then it's time fo walk away, slowly , I mean very fast.

I would love to hear your thoughts about dating and the do's or don't's so please send your comments to me.  Coach Elliott Maximo Collazo

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