Is Monogamy Natural?
There are people I have met over time who have had a variety of agreements with their partners that allow wiggle room when they would like to enjoy a sexual experience with someone else. In fact there are even "swingers clubs" where coupled and married members meet for the purpose of having physical intimacy with each other. Then there are of course couples who live together that consist of three people and marriages for example with five wives. Although many of us feel as though monogamy is more aligned with our beliefs, other arrangements have become more and more common with people who feel that monogamy is not natural. Who is to say what is best for each relationship? I am of the opinion that it be left up to consenting adults.
Emily was married for over twenty five years and over time she kept many lovers. To the observer including me her relationship with her husband appeared wonderful. They were not simply happy, it was delightful to see them interact with each other and their children. Both were incredible parents and as it turns out both the children were normal, both seem relatively happy and both are college educated. According to close friends there were times when the husband and the boyfriend were in the same room and according to the couple it was all in the open. Today this couple is still married and have a great living arrangement spending time together when the choose to. The relationship transformed from a live in marriage to a wonderful loving, close and intimate friendship. There is so much love that there seems to be an argument that the infidelity was simply a part of their natural transition in a loving relationship that went from living in one household to finding their comfort zones in their own homes.
Another couple I met many years ago who appeared to be in lusty love and who were a pleasure to be around later informed me that they occasionally have had a sexual fling with a third person. Both are professionals who live what I would call "the good life" and both are sweet, kind, generous and fun people. They appear to be a very happy couple and both have shared how much they admire the other. To witness them together is truly a pleasant and fun filled experience. Today this couple has decided that although having the occasional physical experience with someone else was fun that they have had their moment in time and now do not feel a need for it. Still when they share their life experience they do so without shame.
Although when I was married and in a relationship I did not go elsewhere for sex I would not rule out other arrangements made by two consenting people in a marriage or in an intimate relationship. For some monogamy is not natural and instead of pretending that they are monogamous in mind and body they are honest while others claim to be monogamous while having affairs in secret hence deceiving their partner. For people who do not believe monogamy is natural their decision to act on their natural inclinations is likely a good decision for them. While for others it may be a choice in spite of their inner voice who nags at them because they have a desire to have sex with someone else. Then of course there are those who are happy with one person and feel as though nothing is missing. Is monogamy natural? Professionals in the field would say yes and no depending on who is asked the question. My response to this is that it is natural for some people and not for others. Each of us has to make a choice, the one that feels as though it is in our highest good and the highest good of the relationship.
Elliott Maximo Collazo
Emily was married for over twenty five years and over time she kept many lovers. To the observer including me her relationship with her husband appeared wonderful. They were not simply happy, it was delightful to see them interact with each other and their children. Both were incredible parents and as it turns out both the children were normal, both seem relatively happy and both are college educated. According to close friends there were times when the husband and the boyfriend were in the same room and according to the couple it was all in the open. Today this couple is still married and have a great living arrangement spending time together when the choose to. The relationship transformed from a live in marriage to a wonderful loving, close and intimate friendship. There is so much love that there seems to be an argument that the infidelity was simply a part of their natural transition in a loving relationship that went from living in one household to finding their comfort zones in their own homes.
Another couple I met many years ago who appeared to be in lusty love and who were a pleasure to be around later informed me that they occasionally have had a sexual fling with a third person. Both are professionals who live what I would call "the good life" and both are sweet, kind, generous and fun people. They appear to be a very happy couple and both have shared how much they admire the other. To witness them together is truly a pleasant and fun filled experience. Today this couple has decided that although having the occasional physical experience with someone else was fun that they have had their moment in time and now do not feel a need for it. Still when they share their life experience they do so without shame.
Although when I was married and in a relationship I did not go elsewhere for sex I would not rule out other arrangements made by two consenting people in a marriage or in an intimate relationship. For some monogamy is not natural and instead of pretending that they are monogamous in mind and body they are honest while others claim to be monogamous while having affairs in secret hence deceiving their partner. For people who do not believe monogamy is natural their decision to act on their natural inclinations is likely a good decision for them. While for others it may be a choice in spite of their inner voice who nags at them because they have a desire to have sex with someone else. Then of course there are those who are happy with one person and feel as though nothing is missing. Is monogamy natural? Professionals in the field would say yes and no depending on who is asked the question. My response to this is that it is natural for some people and not for others. Each of us has to make a choice, the one that feels as though it is in our highest good and the highest good of the relationship.
Elliott Maximo Collazo
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