You Deserve Better
"Never love anyone who treats you like you're ordinary" Oscar Wilde
Samantha met a man after several years of being single. On paper Cary Titler seemed like a good catch. At the time she met him he was in school studying to become a nurse. After only a week or so this guy moves in with her and the next thing she knew his clothes made it into her bedroom drawers. Not only did this person not go home, he described his own condo as dark and depressing. A year later Samantha found out exactly what he meant because when she walked down the stairs to his "garden unit" her foot when through it but the real surprise was inside. It was beyond shocking and beyond dirty, Cary lived in absolute filth. The plaster from the ceiling was on the dining table, one of the feet on the table was missing, the cabinet doors in the kitchen were hanging sideways, the tile around the tub was inside of it, the toilet was brown inside (OMG) and the stuffing from the sofa was visible. To say it was bad would be a cruel and unusual lie because in fact it was horrific. As if this were not enough of a sure sign to run, when she asked him about it he went into a deep and utter child like denial stating: "What do you expect, I have not lived there for a year". This of course got Sam thinking and when she realized it had been a year since Cary moved in it seemed she had feelings for him and she unwittingly opted to stay. She settled and ten years later when she got cancer he was not available to her and finally like a coward he walked out. Today Samantha lives in her own beautifully decorated and clean home and the back of her home faces a lake. To say that she saw the light is indeed an understatement.
What we must all learn from Samantha is that when anyone treats you like you are ordinary it is a sign that this is not someone who loves you. In her own experience and that of many women I have spoken to a lot of time is wasted on men who simply don't honor you or hold you in high esteem. Like Cary there are many men who do not understand that love is not a word but an action and that loving someone takes actions that are kind and that are generous. When Samantha finally woke up her world was a ruffled and she'd need to piece it together again with all of the will she had in her. She did that and I have as well. First and foremost in her life and that of others like her, one needs to find ones own worth, take actions that are in your highest good and understand that people who treat you like you are ordinary are telling you something: I don't respect you. And when we allow people o treat us less than special when they claim to love us we give them the tools to bring us down. Boundaries need to be set with others as well as the clarity around who you are: special and worth of complete harmonious love.
I agree with Oscar Wilde: Never love anyone who treats you as if you are ordinary. Never love anyone who you know does not care enough about himself than to live in a situation that is unclean and filled with signs of denial. Never love someone who mistreats you or who allows their family to dismiss you and insult you. Never love someone who is with you because you fill in their blanks in their life. And by all means: Never give up on love or allow anyone to make you believe you are unworthy of more.
Samantha met a man after several years of being single. On paper Cary Titler seemed like a good catch. At the time she met him he was in school studying to become a nurse. After only a week or so this guy moves in with her and the next thing she knew his clothes made it into her bedroom drawers. Not only did this person not go home, he described his own condo as dark and depressing. A year later Samantha found out exactly what he meant because when she walked down the stairs to his "garden unit" her foot when through it but the real surprise was inside. It was beyond shocking and beyond dirty, Cary lived in absolute filth. The plaster from the ceiling was on the dining table, one of the feet on the table was missing, the cabinet doors in the kitchen were hanging sideways, the tile around the tub was inside of it, the toilet was brown inside (OMG) and the stuffing from the sofa was visible. To say it was bad would be a cruel and unusual lie because in fact it was horrific. As if this were not enough of a sure sign to run, when she asked him about it he went into a deep and utter child like denial stating: "What do you expect, I have not lived there for a year". This of course got Sam thinking and when she realized it had been a year since Cary moved in it seemed she had feelings for him and she unwittingly opted to stay. She settled and ten years later when she got cancer he was not available to her and finally like a coward he walked out. Today Samantha lives in her own beautifully decorated and clean home and the back of her home faces a lake. To say that she saw the light is indeed an understatement.
What we must all learn from Samantha is that when anyone treats you like you are ordinary it is a sign that this is not someone who loves you. In her own experience and that of many women I have spoken to a lot of time is wasted on men who simply don't honor you or hold you in high esteem. Like Cary there are many men who do not understand that love is not a word but an action and that loving someone takes actions that are kind and that are generous. When Samantha finally woke up her world was a ruffled and she'd need to piece it together again with all of the will she had in her. She did that and I have as well. First and foremost in her life and that of others like her, one needs to find ones own worth, take actions that are in your highest good and understand that people who treat you like you are ordinary are telling you something: I don't respect you. And when we allow people o treat us less than special when they claim to love us we give them the tools to bring us down. Boundaries need to be set with others as well as the clarity around who you are: special and worth of complete harmonious love.
I agree with Oscar Wilde: Never love anyone who treats you as if you are ordinary. Never love anyone who you know does not care enough about himself than to live in a situation that is unclean and filled with signs of denial. Never love someone who mistreats you or who allows their family to dismiss you and insult you. Never love someone who is with you because you fill in their blanks in their life. And by all means: Never give up on love or allow anyone to make you believe you are unworthy of more.
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