Porn Is Worn: Out

It seems that porn is more accessible than ever and that even a child can find it.  Although I am no choir boy I think that it has gotten to the point where it has become so common as to make us believe that there is truly nothing sacred, even physical intimacy.  As a result we are seeing the breakdown of relationships, at times ending them because one person becomes addicted to porn and no longer is actively participating in intimacy with the person who loves them.  Porn appears harmless and of course the producers of porn who are making millions would like us to believe it harmless, but deep inside we all know that is it not.  IT has been a form of destruction in relationships and it has often replace pure, honest and private intimacy, the way it was mean to  be.  The fact that people are talking about porn as if it were something good does not make it good.  In my opinion we should be asking why we are more drawn to porn, watching others have sex than we are to other productive things we could be doing with our time.  Needless to say there are many productive and magical things of love that we can be doing.  

Porn is a billion dollar industry and it has become obvious to Americans that it is here to stay.  Nothing is going to make it go away and I think that is OK.  It is after all the right to and freedom of that is more important to me and the rights of my children.  The best part of freedom is that we also have the freedom to say what we thing of everything, especially if we feel it harmful or wrong for us or the young ones we love.  Even if porn is a billion dollar industry many of us will not participate in it either by selling it or buying it and it is my belief that every time we buy it we sell a part of our spirit that yearns to be pure and connected to love.  Porn is not love nor should we mistake it for love.  Porn is people having sex without any regard for love and wholeness or meaningful connection.  We must understand porn for what it is.  It is in simple wording an escape from reality and an insult to what meaningful intimacy should be and is not.  

As a man of color I understood early on that sex was mainly something done between people who love each other and are in some other manner, other than physical, committed to one another.  I learned that love came before sex and that the act of intimacy was in part for the conception of children.  Perhaps to some this will sound provincial yet for me it makes more sense today than when I was a child.  Today I understand just how harmful porn or the depiction of sex without any other factors of love have on the soul.  Every time we view pornography we minimize ourselves and our humanity and our self-esteem goes south.  Nothing could be more demeaning to us than to become obsessed with watching others having sex that even swear and hit one another.  Where was that meaning derived from?  I won't answer that question and simply allow you to do that on your own.  

Sex education is one of the things that I as a former teacher would advocate for more now than ever.  I think that young folks should know that their sexuality is completely acceptable and that sex is not a bad thing.  I also think that young people should talk about porn and that it be something they understand for what it truly is.  A selfish and cheap depiction of intimacy that is simply not healthy.  No matter how many professionals say that porn is OK and in fact important to some form of sexual education, I am completely apposed to these myths and believe them to be ones that promote a habit that is harmful, especially on an emotional and spiritual level.  

I once advised a woman whose husband was addicted to porn and even hired protitutes.  He not only harmed himself he ruined their finances as a couple.  On top of his addiction to porn and prostitutes he snorted cocaine.  A man who looked like the boy next door with a toddler daughter and a wife living in an affluent area in New York was living a secret life until his wife uncovered the truth.  Time and time again his wife attempted to forgive him by staying and doing all she could do to love him.  Nothing worked and the reason that nothing did work was because he became addicted to porn and drugs, often times two things that are coupled together.  Not that we want to believe this nor will doctors usually tell patients.  It's just not PC.  Then again why would I care about being PC.  The truth is that I am not nor will I be PC simply to gain readers or be accepted.  

Porn has the potential to ruin your life and if you are addicted to porn it is time to admit it and get help.  I would especially encourage others to get help because when we give up the things that are not of love we heal and we are set free.  Porn is a big money maker and hence there is lots of justification for it to go on.  I am not one to judge yet what motivates me today is the fact that I have a platform and that I can use it for good.  

Happy New Year, 
Elliott Maximo Collazo 

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