Why Being Single Is Bettter

I have learned in the last year that being single is working for me in many ways and have come up with many advantages when one is single versus not, starting with not having to answer to someone else.  As often times happens there is a power struggle in relationships and many times we cannot be who we authentically are inside a relationship with someone.

Being single means we travel alone and we pick the destination we most love.  During our travels we get up when we want and we engage in only the activities we love to do.  We don't have to worry about what anyone else is thinking and what they want to do.  We get to focus on what we love to do and we do it, no restrictions involved and no time limit placed on us.  The freedom to travel as a single person is much broader and we can enjoy our time away as we deem it.  I personally like to sit by pool or the ocean for hours and that is exactly what I do.  I spend my time leisurely going from one thing to the next without any limitations.  It is a great feeling and being single and traveling is so much more fun for me.

When we are single we can map out our day doing things when we like and playing by our own rules.  Every day is an adventure that we devise and we make up moment by moment, even if we choose to do nothing.  We are the maker of our day and we are the designer of our own fun.  We don't have to ask anyone for permission or consult with anyone else and that is a great feeling.  Taking our time and doing exactly what we want to do when we want to do it is the best part about flying solo.

When relationships are a burden they are a burden.  They can be a huge and tedious burden when the other person is a controlling person.  Alone we don't need to worry about that bossy person who wants things his or her way or who simply likes to be in control.  We can come and go as we please and we are our own boss and our own maker of fun and entertainment.  We can even pick the people we would like to share our fun with.  It is a freeing feeling to decide how and when you do things and to not have anyone telling you what to do.

Being in a relationship is not all it is cranked up to be.  It is a lot of work, many times in the end not working out.  It places us in a place of having to comply to someone's needs other than our own and that would not be bad if it were not so constant and sometimes completely unreasonable.  Being single gives us the chance to show up for ourselves and to love ourselves more fully without the distraction of relationship.  Even though we are made to believe that relationship is for everyone it is a terribly untrue myth.  Relationships are not for everyone and everyone should not be in a relationship. Letting ourselves have the freedom to be single and happy lifts us up in a way that no one can lift us but ourselves.  Letting ourselves be single and free of the stigma is one way for us to find our hearts and lead ourselves back to the love that really matters: Self-Love.

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