Love Language and Actions
It may seem easy to fall in love and at times it truly is. It amazes me how fast people fall in love. What it harder to achieve is staying in love and keeping love interesting and new. In order for this to be realized we must be familiar with the love language. Love language and love actions are the words and things we do to keep love going strong. Although many people stay married for many years without ever knowing of or using love language or love actions their relationships are truly as boring as they appear to be. Exciting and truly wonderful love relationships are ones that we work on and ones where love is practiced in a way that both parties are happy.
Love language means using words that you have uncovered are meaningful to your partner or that your partner has shared he or she responds best to. The best way to develop a love language with someone you love is by paying attention to the words that they respond well to and on the converse those words they respond negatively to. When you see that someone you love responds negatively that is an opportunity to learn. It is a good time to ask him or her how they prefer to be addressed and the language that they think best for them.
I have spoken to many people about using love language and the response that I get most often is that they feel fake when they are told how to talk to their partner by their partner. They use this as an excuse not to conform to the loving language that their loved one needs to hear from them. It is an insular and selfish response and it is the very reason that couples end in divorce. One person cannot and will not do everything possible to hear what their loved one is asking of them. If we are unwilling to use love language that others want or need to hear then we should not get intimately involved with others in a loving or spousal relationship.
Loving actions are things we do for others that show them we love them. Buying some flowers for our spouse or writing them a poem are some loving actions. But there are even more subtle ways of showing our love like washing the dishes or loading the washer or folding some clothing. Nothing is more important than demonstrating love rather than to continue saying the words and not backing it up with meaning.
Love language means using words that you have uncovered are meaningful to your partner or that your partner has shared he or she responds best to. The best way to develop a love language with someone you love is by paying attention to the words that they respond well to and on the converse those words they respond negatively to. When you see that someone you love responds negatively that is an opportunity to learn. It is a good time to ask him or her how they prefer to be addressed and the language that they think best for them.
I have spoken to many people about using love language and the response that I get most often is that they feel fake when they are told how to talk to their partner by their partner. They use this as an excuse not to conform to the loving language that their loved one needs to hear from them. It is an insular and selfish response and it is the very reason that couples end in divorce. One person cannot and will not do everything possible to hear what their loved one is asking of them. If we are unwilling to use love language that others want or need to hear then we should not get intimately involved with others in a loving or spousal relationship.
Loving actions are things we do for others that show them we love them. Buying some flowers for our spouse or writing them a poem are some loving actions. But there are even more subtle ways of showing our love like washing the dishes or loading the washer or folding some clothing. Nothing is more important than demonstrating love rather than to continue saying the words and not backing it up with meaning.
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