Being Our Authentic Self
Knowing who we are is sometimes a daunting endeavor. There are times when we are chasing the person we want to be when all along we are that person and all that is needed is to be authentic to that person. Being our authentic self requires that we four important factors and those factors are:
1. Accept ourselves as we are with some of our flaws, the ones we cannot control.
2. Tell others the truth and tell ourselves the truth as well.
3. Behave authentically and not put on airs or make up stories to feel important.
4. Set boundaries and limits we know we must.
The very first thing I need to do on a daily basis is check in with myself and to scan my physical and emotional and spiritual self, accepting where I am at in the moment and not judging it. I know I have flaws so I decide that I am going to accept myself just as I am with my flaws, especially because most of them I cannot control. I am a disabled man in some ways. My body is not like it use to be. I tell myself that there are certain things I cannot control like this or that part of me, the ones that they took out and the ones that were altered due to my health issues. I have extra work to do to dress a certain way so as to conceal my colostomy bag and to check my body carefully, more than before. In the end I have to accept myself as I am just like you do with the caveat that there are things about me that are new and sometimes a little more work to manage.
Telling others the truth and telling yourself the truth is imperative if you expect to be the real you and be authentic in every way. Admitting when you are sad or need some assistance or love is a way of being yourself and at the same time receiving what it is you truly need. This is authentic. Hiding your feelings and needs is not authentic and lying to others about the way you feel or what you need is disingenuine.
Behaving realistically and being who you are with yourself and others is clearly a healthy way to live your life while living in some made up story is not. Putting on airs about yourself and making up things to make you look important is insecurity and worse of all it is a form of deceit. Don't deceive yourself by making up stories that are either partially or in whole not the truth. If you are a janitor you don't have to say you are an engineer in s a school in order to make yourself more important. Being OK with who you really are is imperative to living a life that is self-loving and realistic. A life that is about your truth and not some made up version of it. You should be completely fine as who you are even if there are days when you want to be someone else. Being you is always good enough and the more authentic you are about who you are the more you are living in the truth and in the joy.
Our most difficult endeavor in life could very well be setting boundaries. Once we begin a relationship without boundaries when inside we are feeling a need for them we begin a cycle of suffering. We start a vicious circle we end up trapped in only because we did not speak up and ask for what we wanted and how we would like to be treated. This can spiral out of control easily and quickly. We can end up feeling stifled but only because we allowed others to cross our boundaries and disrespect us. It is up to us to set the boundaries with every relationship we encounter, at work, at home, intimately and even casually. We can have our boundaries crossed when we let a store clerk speak to us with disrespect or when our partner says unkind things to us. If we don't stop it soon enough it will continue and likely worsen. Set those boundaries early and be your authentic self by saying what you need.
Today has been an extra challenging day for me. I have had some mishaps already yet what I prefer to focus on is that I am in the middle of nature in the Hampton's with five of my friends who love me. They can forgive my imperfections because they are compassionate people. They can see me for where I am and know that being me is sometimes a little journey I have to take every day. By being authentic with them I invite them to be as authentic with me. I invite the light and the love by setting my boundaries and asking for what I need when I need it. I invite their authentic side by being authentic myself. It all starts with me and although this seems simple it is a daily task for me. By staying present I am authentic. By loving without limits I am authentic and by setting boundaries I am authentic. By being honest I honor my real self. And by loving myself I stand in my truth.
1. Accept ourselves as we are with some of our flaws, the ones we cannot control.
2. Tell others the truth and tell ourselves the truth as well.
3. Behave authentically and not put on airs or make up stories to feel important.
4. Set boundaries and limits we know we must.
The very first thing I need to do on a daily basis is check in with myself and to scan my physical and emotional and spiritual self, accepting where I am at in the moment and not judging it. I know I have flaws so I decide that I am going to accept myself just as I am with my flaws, especially because most of them I cannot control. I am a disabled man in some ways. My body is not like it use to be. I tell myself that there are certain things I cannot control like this or that part of me, the ones that they took out and the ones that were altered due to my health issues. I have extra work to do to dress a certain way so as to conceal my colostomy bag and to check my body carefully, more than before. In the end I have to accept myself as I am just like you do with the caveat that there are things about me that are new and sometimes a little more work to manage.
Telling others the truth and telling yourself the truth is imperative if you expect to be the real you and be authentic in every way. Admitting when you are sad or need some assistance or love is a way of being yourself and at the same time receiving what it is you truly need. This is authentic. Hiding your feelings and needs is not authentic and lying to others about the way you feel or what you need is disingenuine.
Behaving realistically and being who you are with yourself and others is clearly a healthy way to live your life while living in some made up story is not. Putting on airs about yourself and making up things to make you look important is insecurity and worse of all it is a form of deceit. Don't deceive yourself by making up stories that are either partially or in whole not the truth. If you are a janitor you don't have to say you are an engineer in s a school in order to make yourself more important. Being OK with who you really are is imperative to living a life that is self-loving and realistic. A life that is about your truth and not some made up version of it. You should be completely fine as who you are even if there are days when you want to be someone else. Being you is always good enough and the more authentic you are about who you are the more you are living in the truth and in the joy.
Our most difficult endeavor in life could very well be setting boundaries. Once we begin a relationship without boundaries when inside we are feeling a need for them we begin a cycle of suffering. We start a vicious circle we end up trapped in only because we did not speak up and ask for what we wanted and how we would like to be treated. This can spiral out of control easily and quickly. We can end up feeling stifled but only because we allowed others to cross our boundaries and disrespect us. It is up to us to set the boundaries with every relationship we encounter, at work, at home, intimately and even casually. We can have our boundaries crossed when we let a store clerk speak to us with disrespect or when our partner says unkind things to us. If we don't stop it soon enough it will continue and likely worsen. Set those boundaries early and be your authentic self by saying what you need.
Today has been an extra challenging day for me. I have had some mishaps already yet what I prefer to focus on is that I am in the middle of nature in the Hampton's with five of my friends who love me. They can forgive my imperfections because they are compassionate people. They can see me for where I am and know that being me is sometimes a little journey I have to take every day. By being authentic with them I invite them to be as authentic with me. I invite the light and the love by setting my boundaries and asking for what I need when I need it. I invite their authentic side by being authentic myself. It all starts with me and although this seems simple it is a daily task for me. By staying present I am authentic. By loving without limits I am authentic and by setting boundaries I am authentic. By being honest I honor my real self. And by loving myself I stand in my truth.
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