Good Ways to Grieve

When someone dies it is difficult to know what to do to heal from the loss.  My worse grieving story is about when my sister died in her 20's.  It was sudden and a very big shock to know that she committed suicide in part due to a horrible marriage and abuse from her spouse.  Her decision to leave this world was much like the song about the artist and I feel still about my sister "This world was never meant for someone as beautiful as you".  Grieving her took a while but I believe we can all heal from a loss and grieve in a way that honors us and honors the person who has passed.

To me there are some loving ways to grieve such as:

Story telling: 
Talk about the life of the person who has transitioned.  Tell some stories about how wonderful they are and even some funny stories.  Honor that person by talking about them and not forgetting them as if they'd not existed.  Remembering that person in a positive manner will help you grieve them and move into a more positive place.

Memorials:
I think memorials are a beautiful way to process a loss.  People who know this person talk about him or her and the person who was closet to him or her gets a chance to process the loss in a way that is joyous and good for the heart.  Hearing others say wonderful things about the person who passed creates a venue for healing.

Use a Picture: 
Take a picture out of the person and display it with flowers or a candle.  A ritual with their picture may help you to release him or her and honor them.  It tells your spirit that this person will always be around in spirit.  By taking a picture of them and using it to show love you are remembering them and remembering the life you had with that person.  Just because someone is gone in physical form does not mean they are not here in spiritual form.

Say what you left unsaid: 
If you feel like there were things you wanted to say that were left unsaid write a letter to that person you love.  Say the things you need to say and the things you may feel you needed to say even if it was just to say "goodbye" or "I love you with all my heart".  Write it as if you were going to send it to that person. Fill it with loving thoughts and words for that person that you have lost in physical form.

The overall way to grieve is to honor the person and to honor your feeling.  The most crucial thing is to not deny your feelings of sorrow, embrace them and then do things that show love for the person or pet who you lost.

Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

A Seasoned Vs Old Person

Those of you who know me personally might be aware that I don't use the word "old".  I don't think that people should be referred to with a word like old and I believe that as we live longer lives we are wiser and that we can be looked upon as "seasoned".  For me the word seasoned means that we have lived a good life and that we have gone from one season to another experiencing life and the many ups and downs of it.  I don't see the word old as one that honors any human being for their acquisition of wisdom and the things they have been able to overcome.  I for one consider myself a seasoned man not an "old man". There are so many meanings to the word old but the one that I am not in agreement with is the connotation that older is less than and younger is more important.  Unfortunately we live in a world where youth is celebrated and seasoned people are looked down on.  The thought is that younger people are more attractive or that they are m...
Read more

Your Skirt Is Over Your Head

I am uncertain as to how many of my readers know what I mean about putting your skirt over your head.  All I know is that my sister once said it and I think I heard it in a movie once.  I do know that in the movie "Mermaids" Cher who played the mom had some great lines about being a woman and just having a good time with life.  In one of those what should be famous lines Cher's daughter played by Winnona Ryder says: "Don't you think yoiiu are too old for that dress?"to which Cher responds with: "Don't be silly Charlotte, a woman is never too old".  In another part there is a stunning young man waiting on their porch to welcome them to the country area where they moved and upon setting eyes on him Winnona Ryder who is Charlotte is mezmerized by him.  Cher suddenly turns around and says: "too bad your hell bent on becoming a nun".  To say that Cher truly pulls the dress over her head is really minimizing her role in this movie that I wo...
Read more

Visualize It, Manifest It.

Let me just excuse myself from the non-believers as I know you are out there and the mere idea of believing and then achieving seems silly.  If you are one of these people, you should stop reading now and simply not waste any time because if you don't believe in yourself then you will not understand how manifestation works.  This blog is not just about believing and then getting what you believe in but more importantly how to go from the thought of being your highest self to actually being your highest self. And so if you believe, even a little, keep going because this is about having what you want in life ether spiritually, emotionally or physically.  Here are some ways to get there: Setting Your Intention: The very first thing to do when you want to manifest something (joy, money, relationship) is to set your intention.  You can set your intention by speaking of what you want in a way that feels intentional. An intention can sound like this: My intention is ...
Read more