Looking For Love
Looking for love is one of life's most common mistakes. Looking for love makes us do things we would not normally do believing that if we do we will eventually find one person who will love us. The one night stands, the six month relationships, the fast marriages and almost always ending up alone. Then we say yes to the first person who asks us. It is all about looking for love in all the wrong places that we think are the right places. The Internet, the hook up sights we can download on our phone, the dating service that are expensive and the ones where you meet your future mate for lunch. Oh and let's not forget "speed dating" and the "Bachelor". We are almost entirely consumed with getting and keeping someone who will be our Mr. and Miss wonderful.
The main issue is that we are looking for love. In fact we don't have to look for love when we are doing exactly what makes us happy and what equals loving ourselves. We don't need to look because someone will find us when we are traveling the world, opening our own business and buying and decorating our own home. While we are busy not looking and doing somehow someone finds us. They may even come right up to us and introduce themselves. My suggestion: Stop looking!
I have been single now for a little over a year. During this time I have not looked for anyone and actually feel as though I am not really interested. All the while I have had people approach me, ask me out, tell me how handsome I am and offered to amuse me. During this time I have decided that I do not believe in Internet dating or any other kind of artificial way to meet someone. In fact I met my former partner on an Internet dating sight and it ended in disaster and my not even knowing for over ten years that he was an atheist. All the while I thought I'd hit the jackpot when I had actually hit a wall and wasted a lot of time with someone who was nothing like me and that I did not like. I was at the time looking feverishly. Nothing seemed to work. Then I decided to get on a dating sight and after dating some frogs I met who I thought was at least a monkey. As it turned out he was the first to ask and I was dumb enough to say yes. Looking for love does not work. It is that simple.
When you are a match with someone that person will come into your circle sooner than later. You don't have to do anything special but live your life to the fullest. The person will appear whether via a friend or at a museum when you are admiring a painting. Your energy will bring the right person to you. As long as you understand that this is the way it works it will happen as if it were any other thing in your life. When the time and place is aligned you will meet him or her. Don't waste your time looking. IN the meantime know what you want and do what you love.
I have a friend whose husband worships her. He adores her and believes she is the best woman in the world. She met him at a friends party. He happened to be her friend's uncle. They both felt an energy towards each other and have been married for over twenty years. I have another friend who met her partner at a dance class. She was asked to attend the class to help the teacher demonstrate the dance after she'd taken several lessons. They have been together for over fifteen years. Another friend met her partner at the Art Institute admiring a painting along side a man who was admiring it as well. They are married now for over 29 years. This is really how people organically meet, just by living their life and doing what they like to do, being where they like to be.
Bob (not his real name) looked for love from gay bar to gay bar. He met many men and slept according to him with at least 100 of them if not more. For years he was someone's one night stand. He even had experiences with two men at one time. Eventually he was tested and was HIV positive. He had failed to understand that the AIDS epidemic was rampant. Today he is single and has only had one stable relationship for about a year. Now he is 65 years of age and has not a clue as to where he can go from this point on. All that he knows is that he needs to continue to do what he loves to do and not be down on himself or feel sorry for himself. Although he is alone the one thing he understands is that the only way to love is by loving himself more each day.
No one understand better than people who have looked for love and settled what a mistake it is to look. No one knows better how love happens than those who don't look for love, love themselves very much and live life as though it will end tomorrow. No one knows love better then those who love themselves better then others love them.
There lays your tidbit of wisdom about love.
The main issue is that we are looking for love. In fact we don't have to look for love when we are doing exactly what makes us happy and what equals loving ourselves. We don't need to look because someone will find us when we are traveling the world, opening our own business and buying and decorating our own home. While we are busy not looking and doing somehow someone finds us. They may even come right up to us and introduce themselves. My suggestion: Stop looking!
I have been single now for a little over a year. During this time I have not looked for anyone and actually feel as though I am not really interested. All the while I have had people approach me, ask me out, tell me how handsome I am and offered to amuse me. During this time I have decided that I do not believe in Internet dating or any other kind of artificial way to meet someone. In fact I met my former partner on an Internet dating sight and it ended in disaster and my not even knowing for over ten years that he was an atheist. All the while I thought I'd hit the jackpot when I had actually hit a wall and wasted a lot of time with someone who was nothing like me and that I did not like. I was at the time looking feverishly. Nothing seemed to work. Then I decided to get on a dating sight and after dating some frogs I met who I thought was at least a monkey. As it turned out he was the first to ask and I was dumb enough to say yes. Looking for love does not work. It is that simple.
When you are a match with someone that person will come into your circle sooner than later. You don't have to do anything special but live your life to the fullest. The person will appear whether via a friend or at a museum when you are admiring a painting. Your energy will bring the right person to you. As long as you understand that this is the way it works it will happen as if it were any other thing in your life. When the time and place is aligned you will meet him or her. Don't waste your time looking. IN the meantime know what you want and do what you love.
I have a friend whose husband worships her. He adores her and believes she is the best woman in the world. She met him at a friends party. He happened to be her friend's uncle. They both felt an energy towards each other and have been married for over twenty years. I have another friend who met her partner at a dance class. She was asked to attend the class to help the teacher demonstrate the dance after she'd taken several lessons. They have been together for over fifteen years. Another friend met her partner at the Art Institute admiring a painting along side a man who was admiring it as well. They are married now for over 29 years. This is really how people organically meet, just by living their life and doing what they like to do, being where they like to be.
Bob (not his real name) looked for love from gay bar to gay bar. He met many men and slept according to him with at least 100 of them if not more. For years he was someone's one night stand. He even had experiences with two men at one time. Eventually he was tested and was HIV positive. He had failed to understand that the AIDS epidemic was rampant. Today he is single and has only had one stable relationship for about a year. Now he is 65 years of age and has not a clue as to where he can go from this point on. All that he knows is that he needs to continue to do what he loves to do and not be down on himself or feel sorry for himself. Although he is alone the one thing he understands is that the only way to love is by loving himself more each day.
No one understand better than people who have looked for love and settled what a mistake it is to look. No one knows better how love happens than those who don't look for love, love themselves very much and live life as though it will end tomorrow. No one knows love better then those who love themselves better then others love them.
There lays your tidbit of wisdom about love.
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