What Women Want and Have the Right To Expect
I have been friends with women all my life. The likely reason for my friendships with women is that I was raised by three wonderful and wise women. My great grandmother, my grandmother and my mom. Then I received two daughter who have also been my teachers. If I were to give men one good piece of advise it would be to listen and to listen carefully when women speak and take it from there. By listening carefully men can learn all they need to know about women.
Today I had a conversation with a woman who shared her experiences with men. In both cases she was dancing with a man when one asked her if she's like to go to bed with him that evening and the other placed his hand on her private part. Although I have heard many stories I was once again very embarrassed at how another man would treat a woman and that the level of disrespect was was so overt that it was almost unforgivable. Lucky for both these men they were given a pass by a nice lady. Over the years I have heard women share what they want and here are some of those things they shared with me. I listened and I learned that:
Women want men to see them and acknowledge them:
Men who see a woman are in an awareness. Being aware of a woman's contribution is an act of celebration. Men who see a woman see her talents and acknowledge her feelings and view point. Women like men who treat them as if what they do and say matters, all of it.
Women want men to be gentlemen, be respectful and use loving language:
Men who think that liberated and independent women don't want you to open the car door for them are living in a world where the chances of being in a long term relationship will be slim. Women love gentlemen whether she is intimately involved with you or just your friend. It is equally important to use loving language around all women. Women want to be treated special and they deserve it.
Women want men to romance them slowly:
Women do not want a man who is going to ask them for sex on the night they met them. They want to be romanced slowly and given time to feel safe. Women like to be romanced with flowers, cards, gifts, poems and other kind gestures. Women want to be lured into love not pushed onto a bed. They want to cuddle before and after love making and be able to take their time before they get intimate with you.
Women want men to be reliable:
Men who are reliable show up on time, are their word and can be depended on to be on time. Men who are tardy and don't show up give women pause. Women want men to be honest and do what they say they are going to do without being coached. Women like reliable men who don't say one thing and do the contrary.
Women want men to be honest:
Honesty is at the top of the list for a lot of women. Being honest and up front from the start is important if you intend to have an emotionally intimate relationship with them. If you are not monogamous then be honest and say so. If you have been married three time tell them. Women do not want to find out you have lied to them later.
Women want men to be fair:
Men are sometimes unfair to women expecting them to do more to he work in the home or as a parent. Men tend to think that women who stay home should do more when in fact just being a stay at home parent is a full time job never mind the house work, cooking, grocery shopping and doctor's appointments. Women want men to do their share and be fair about all the many things that need to be done. They want to be paid the same salary for the same work we do. It's only fair.
Women want men who be men:
Last but not the least important is that women want men to be men. Being a man means holding your own and taking responsibility for your actions or lack of. Women adore men who can be men and not need to prove their manhood by bullying them or disrespecting them in any other way. Men who are men understand a woman and are not afraid to access their own feminine, loving, compassionate, kind hearted ways.
Enough said.
Today I had a conversation with a woman who shared her experiences with men. In both cases she was dancing with a man when one asked her if she's like to go to bed with him that evening and the other placed his hand on her private part. Although I have heard many stories I was once again very embarrassed at how another man would treat a woman and that the level of disrespect was was so overt that it was almost unforgivable. Lucky for both these men they were given a pass by a nice lady. Over the years I have heard women share what they want and here are some of those things they shared with me. I listened and I learned that:
Women want men to see them and acknowledge them:
Men who see a woman are in an awareness. Being aware of a woman's contribution is an act of celebration. Men who see a woman see her talents and acknowledge her feelings and view point. Women like men who treat them as if what they do and say matters, all of it.
Women want men to be gentlemen, be respectful and use loving language:
Men who think that liberated and independent women don't want you to open the car door for them are living in a world where the chances of being in a long term relationship will be slim. Women love gentlemen whether she is intimately involved with you or just your friend. It is equally important to use loving language around all women. Women want to be treated special and they deserve it.
Women want men to romance them slowly:
Women do not want a man who is going to ask them for sex on the night they met them. They want to be romanced slowly and given time to feel safe. Women like to be romanced with flowers, cards, gifts, poems and other kind gestures. Women want to be lured into love not pushed onto a bed. They want to cuddle before and after love making and be able to take their time before they get intimate with you.
Women want men to be reliable:
Men who are reliable show up on time, are their word and can be depended on to be on time. Men who are tardy and don't show up give women pause. Women want men to be honest and do what they say they are going to do without being coached. Women like reliable men who don't say one thing and do the contrary.
Women want men to be honest:
Honesty is at the top of the list for a lot of women. Being honest and up front from the start is important if you intend to have an emotionally intimate relationship with them. If you are not monogamous then be honest and say so. If you have been married three time tell them. Women do not want to find out you have lied to them later.
Women want men to be fair:
Men are sometimes unfair to women expecting them to do more to he work in the home or as a parent. Men tend to think that women who stay home should do more when in fact just being a stay at home parent is a full time job never mind the house work, cooking, grocery shopping and doctor's appointments. Women want men to do their share and be fair about all the many things that need to be done. They want to be paid the same salary for the same work we do. It's only fair.
Women want men who be men:
Last but not the least important is that women want men to be men. Being a man means holding your own and taking responsibility for your actions or lack of. Women adore men who can be men and not need to prove their manhood by bullying them or disrespecting them in any other way. Men who are men understand a woman and are not afraid to access their own feminine, loving, compassionate, kind hearted ways.
Enough said.
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