Who Do You Love More?
For many of us we were raised to think that self-love was selfish. The first time I heard someone say they loved them self I was floored. I thought what I was taught which was that this person was full of them self and egotistic. We are not suppose to love our selves. What is that about? I was so wrong and now at my age and state in life I understand that loving myself is one o the most important feelings of love I will ever have. I also understood that self-love was a pre-cursor to loving others.
We need only to see people who are self-loathing and self-hating and depressed to get that loving our self is so very imperative to loving anyone else. Not one person is capable of loving others if they despise themselves. Not one person can love another person if they are in self-hate. Not one person can be understanding of others or have compassion if we don't care about our own fate and our own state of being.
A woman I know well went from man to man. She had very shallow relationships with each of them and there were times when she admits she simply satisfied herself with a casual one night stand. She did not realize it but she was setting herself up for a painful life experience. Finally when one man wanted to be with her and stayed she married this man. One would of thought that this would be the happy end to the story but not true. She was still the same person and throughout the years in this relationship she sabotage do it over and over because her own love for herself was lacking. Many years later she ended up a divorced woman who was in her seventies because finally her husband left her for another woman. Her lack of love for herself is exactly what ended her up alone. To this day she is still repelling men.
We cannot love others nor are we capable of receiving love if we don't love the person who is the most important of all: our self. In order to love our self more we must know that we have a job to do and actions to take. Being in love and getting the love you want requires that you are love. When we are love then we can spread the love. When we are love then everyone around us will want to give it. Start to love you now and begin a path to self-love, compassion and understanding . The brand of love that only you can give yourself and that not one person is responsible to give you.
We need only to see people who are self-loathing and self-hating and depressed to get that loving our self is so very imperative to loving anyone else. Not one person is capable of loving others if they despise themselves. Not one person can love another person if they are in self-hate. Not one person can be understanding of others or have compassion if we don't care about our own fate and our own state of being.
A woman I know well went from man to man. She had very shallow relationships with each of them and there were times when she admits she simply satisfied herself with a casual one night stand. She did not realize it but she was setting herself up for a painful life experience. Finally when one man wanted to be with her and stayed she married this man. One would of thought that this would be the happy end to the story but not true. She was still the same person and throughout the years in this relationship she sabotage do it over and over because her own love for herself was lacking. Many years later she ended up a divorced woman who was in her seventies because finally her husband left her for another woman. Her lack of love for herself is exactly what ended her up alone. To this day she is still repelling men.
We cannot love others nor are we capable of receiving love if we don't love the person who is the most important of all: our self. In order to love our self more we must know that we have a job to do and actions to take. Being in love and getting the love you want requires that you are love. When we are love then we can spread the love. When we are love then everyone around us will want to give it. Start to love you now and begin a path to self-love, compassion and understanding . The brand of love that only you can give yourself and that not one person is responsible to give you.
A good one!! It's imperative to love oneself. The thing which is more important is to love you before loving to anyone else.
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