Learning To Cope Better
I believe that all of us have some times in our life when we think that we are not going to be able to cope. We have good intentions and we want to keep our composure and our wits about us yet we find that it is not as easy coping as we think. After all, life deals us some situations that are difficult and that anyone would find challenging. Break ups, deaths, disagreements at work, defiant children, rude strangers and other things can set us off. But there are some logical, precise and skillful ways to cope when things are not going our way:
Stop and check in:
Stop everything you are doing and take the time to breath for a few minutes. Check in with yourself and ask yourself what it is that is scaring you or making you upset. Find a quiet spot and take the time to simply shut down and allow the inner and outer messages of wisdom to come to you. Be patient with yourself and if this involves another person be patient with them as well. By stopping and checking in you are taking the time to become more rational and to calm down before you act.
Keep the faith:
For some of us there is not such thing as faith while others feel like faith has to be about believing in God. I want to encourage a different way of looking at faith and that where is comes from is inside of you and around you in everything that is living, including others. Faith in yourself is number one and the first thing to understand is that faith is inside of you. Be confident in the fact that you have coped well with other situations and that you have the courage and wisdom to deal with this one too. Some may say that tree huggers are strange birds but I say that if it works for you then do it. Faith and healing can be found in the living things around us and sometimes it takes us going outside and connecting with nature to obtain the coping skills we need at the time. Keeping your faith will help you cope with anything.
Stay in your love zone:
We often times go to a place of anger when things happen that are difficult for us to digest or cope with. Instead where we should go is into our love zone. That is a place in our mind and heart where we become compassionate and understanding and look at the situation with a loving attitude. Staying in our love zone when things happen helps us to deal with what is going on rather than to get angry and make it bigger and more powerful over us. By staying in our love zone and being kind and understanding we can cope with just about any situation.
Keep moving:
Do not stay in one place for hours or days at time but rather keep moving. It may seem like a good idea to sleep for twelve hours for two weeks but it is only going to be a temporary fix. Go for walks, ride your bike, go out dancing or take a swim. When we are trying to cope staying active is important and staying active will release some of the toxins in your body that are making you feel anxious. In fact there are detoxing exercises we can do that can be researched on line. They are simple and less physical and just open our organs inside so that they can function more efficiently, hence you will feel calmer. Move, move, move.
Now that you know what to do to cope take the time to think about the ways you have been able to cope before. I admit that at one time I would shop to cope and although I did not overdo it I understood that this was a very short fix for me. Nonetheless we should do what helps us in the moment as long as it is harmless. By staying in a place of love and silencing the voices inside of us we can cope better with situations that are going to come up and are a part of life.
Stop and check in:
Stop everything you are doing and take the time to breath for a few minutes. Check in with yourself and ask yourself what it is that is scaring you or making you upset. Find a quiet spot and take the time to simply shut down and allow the inner and outer messages of wisdom to come to you. Be patient with yourself and if this involves another person be patient with them as well. By stopping and checking in you are taking the time to become more rational and to calm down before you act.
Keep the faith:
For some of us there is not such thing as faith while others feel like faith has to be about believing in God. I want to encourage a different way of looking at faith and that where is comes from is inside of you and around you in everything that is living, including others. Faith in yourself is number one and the first thing to understand is that faith is inside of you. Be confident in the fact that you have coped well with other situations and that you have the courage and wisdom to deal with this one too. Some may say that tree huggers are strange birds but I say that if it works for you then do it. Faith and healing can be found in the living things around us and sometimes it takes us going outside and connecting with nature to obtain the coping skills we need at the time. Keeping your faith will help you cope with anything.
Stay in your love zone:
We often times go to a place of anger when things happen that are difficult for us to digest or cope with. Instead where we should go is into our love zone. That is a place in our mind and heart where we become compassionate and understanding and look at the situation with a loving attitude. Staying in our love zone when things happen helps us to deal with what is going on rather than to get angry and make it bigger and more powerful over us. By staying in our love zone and being kind and understanding we can cope with just about any situation.
Keep moving:
Do not stay in one place for hours or days at time but rather keep moving. It may seem like a good idea to sleep for twelve hours for two weeks but it is only going to be a temporary fix. Go for walks, ride your bike, go out dancing or take a swim. When we are trying to cope staying active is important and staying active will release some of the toxins in your body that are making you feel anxious. In fact there are detoxing exercises we can do that can be researched on line. They are simple and less physical and just open our organs inside so that they can function more efficiently, hence you will feel calmer. Move, move, move.
Now that you know what to do to cope take the time to think about the ways you have been able to cope before. I admit that at one time I would shop to cope and although I did not overdo it I understood that this was a very short fix for me. Nonetheless we should do what helps us in the moment as long as it is harmless. By staying in a place of love and silencing the voices inside of us we can cope better with situations that are going to come up and are a part of life.
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