Surviving All Of It
Recently a friend had a serious car accident where his car was totaled. He was turning left and out of no where a car ran directly into his car on the passenger side. When I looked at the picture of the damage I could only think what could have happened and that if there were to have been a passenger he or she would have likely been killed. Surviving these kinds of things in our life is not just difficult but at times makes us question whether we have done something wrong. Yet what is more likely is that the bad things happen and we usually survive them.
Another friend of mine has been battling with cancer and has fought a good fight. She has had surgery and had chemo and radiation that has destroyed some of the parts of her body. As a result she has a colostomy bag. Recently life challenged her again when one of her best male friends died. To top things off she then developed hernias and had to be operated. The operation was so painful as to put her on pain medication for over a month. She could hardly walk least of all care for herself. Luckily her son was able to be a caregiver as he was between jobs. Today she is walking around and feeling hope once again. She is determined to succeed at life and live beyond the pain and stress of being ill for the last two years. Like her we seem to survive every incident and are able to live on.
But what is it that helps us to get through these vulnerable situations? Well here are some ways that I think we are able to survive all that life doles out to us:
Don't Give Up:
The main reason we survive is that we refuse to give up. Don't give up on yourself when things are tough. Fighting back is the only way to get through the tough times. Talk yourself through the difficult periods and tell yourself that you will get through it eventually. Giving up should never be an option.
Think Positively:
Do your best to think positively. Think about the good times in your life and the good things about your life. Make a mental list every day when you awake of the reasons you are worthwhile. Avoid negative stimulus like TV or people who are prone to being negative. Thinking positive is intentionally and is achieved when you are determined to be positive.
Ask For What You Need:
Ask for what you need from others. You would be surprised at how responsive people are when you ask. Don't shut down but rather open your heart up to others. If someone wants to serve you accept it and know that you deserve it. Asking for what we want does not make us weak, it makes us humble and lovingly vulnerable. It is OK to ask for what we need, especially when we are feeling ill or vulnerable.
Live One Day At A Time:
One can only live one day and take one step at a time when things are going poorly. Surviving any situation you are confronted with can only happen if you live one day at a time and don't worry about tomorrow. Living in the moment is all that you are required to do and is all that is expected of you. This notion of living one day at a time comes from AA which is the 12-step program that addresses additions and people who are addicts to alcohol. There is a lot to be said about this idea and a program that has been quite successful for thousands of people what have struggled to live one day at a time and get through that day.
Surviving some of life's situations is not always simple yet these words of advice can be helpful. There are numerous ways that we cope with situations in life yet there are some basics ways to address them. Taking it one day at a time is likely one of the best ways to deal with things that will happen to us. The bad and the good and the darkness and light are part of life. We have to remember this and act accordingly as well as to live life fully and doing the things we love.
Another friend of mine has been battling with cancer and has fought a good fight. She has had surgery and had chemo and radiation that has destroyed some of the parts of her body. As a result she has a colostomy bag. Recently life challenged her again when one of her best male friends died. To top things off she then developed hernias and had to be operated. The operation was so painful as to put her on pain medication for over a month. She could hardly walk least of all care for herself. Luckily her son was able to be a caregiver as he was between jobs. Today she is walking around and feeling hope once again. She is determined to succeed at life and live beyond the pain and stress of being ill for the last two years. Like her we seem to survive every incident and are able to live on.
But what is it that helps us to get through these vulnerable situations? Well here are some ways that I think we are able to survive all that life doles out to us:
Don't Give Up:
The main reason we survive is that we refuse to give up. Don't give up on yourself when things are tough. Fighting back is the only way to get through the tough times. Talk yourself through the difficult periods and tell yourself that you will get through it eventually. Giving up should never be an option.
Think Positively:
Do your best to think positively. Think about the good times in your life and the good things about your life. Make a mental list every day when you awake of the reasons you are worthwhile. Avoid negative stimulus like TV or people who are prone to being negative. Thinking positive is intentionally and is achieved when you are determined to be positive.
Ask For What You Need:
Ask for what you need from others. You would be surprised at how responsive people are when you ask. Don't shut down but rather open your heart up to others. If someone wants to serve you accept it and know that you deserve it. Asking for what we want does not make us weak, it makes us humble and lovingly vulnerable. It is OK to ask for what we need, especially when we are feeling ill or vulnerable.
Live One Day At A Time:
One can only live one day and take one step at a time when things are going poorly. Surviving any situation you are confronted with can only happen if you live one day at a time and don't worry about tomorrow. Living in the moment is all that you are required to do and is all that is expected of you. This notion of living one day at a time comes from AA which is the 12-step program that addresses additions and people who are addicts to alcohol. There is a lot to be said about this idea and a program that has been quite successful for thousands of people what have struggled to live one day at a time and get through that day.
Surviving some of life's situations is not always simple yet these words of advice can be helpful. There are numerous ways that we cope with situations in life yet there are some basics ways to address them. Taking it one day at a time is likely one of the best ways to deal with things that will happen to us. The bad and the good and the darkness and light are part of life. We have to remember this and act accordingly as well as to live life fully and doing the things we love.
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