Overcoming Fear

Fear is an illusion because love is our reality.  We only need to look at a baby to  understand that love is what we are born with and love is our truth.  Fear is not the truth of who we are even if we may feel it is legitimate.  Those of us who have felt fearful, and that is likely most of us, know that holding on  to it is not beneficial.  When we understand fear and how to address it we can overcome it.

Here are some common fears that we must believe we can overcome: 

Fear of Abandonment: 
One of the common fears we have is the fear of being abandoned.  This is the reason that many people stay in abusive relationships.  To fear abandonment is to place ourselves in a powerless position.  When we are in a fear based situation about relationship we must eventually either face the fear if it is unfounded or let go of the person you are with.  Sharing the fear with the person you love is likely one of the ways to face your fears.  Honoring yourself is the other way to address fear by doing what is in your highest good, which may take getting out of a situation that is not a loving one. It may be true that someone we love might die or leave in some other way but being in fear about it can only rob us of our happiness.

Fear of Illness and Death: 
It is inevitable that we all will die and some of us of terminal illnesses.  It is the way we perceive death that will make a difference in how we live and whether we choose to live in fear or in peace.  Being in peace with death does not mean we want to die but that we are not in fear of dying to the degree that we are not living.  When we live each day fully without fear it ending we live in a place of joy and acceptance.  When we accept that we will someday not be here in this form we can put that aside and move closer to living a fuller life.  

Fear of Failure: 
This is one of the other common fears that many of us struggle with and know of, the fear of failing.  When we are in school we learn at a very early age to compete and win, hence when we fail we react severely to failing.  We must understand that if we don't fail we are not living fully because we are not meant to win at everything and succeed at everything every time.  When we accept this reality we begin to live life fully and fearlessly.

Fear of Anything: 
For many of the people on this planet there are a number of fears that are very specific.  Fear of flying, fear of spiders, fear of gaining weight, fear of losing all their money, Whatever your fear is does not really matter as much as how to face it.  For some therapist exposure to what people fear is one solution and it works for some.  Facing the fear, whatever it is, can be essential to our healing the fears.  Understanding that fear is not the truth is half the battle and facing the fear is the other half.


These fears look to be the most common ones for many of us.  I hope that by talking about this I have helped someone out there understand that fear is natural and that holding on to it is not.  Fear can be overcome with love and the courage to face the fear.  There is not one good reason to be in fear except if we are in immediate danger and even then trying to remain courageous and centered will likely get us through that legitimately unsafe situation.  We must believe in ourselves in order to conquer fear.  We must know that fear is an illusion and that love is our truth.