Love Me My Way 2
Besides loving myself which I think can be overrated, I have always wanted to be loved my way, the way I want to be loved. I believe that all of us want to be loved in a way that honors us! I also understand that people need to be loved in their own unique manner. I think that if someone loves you the way you deem it and in some of the ways you ask for it they truly to care about you. I also think that if a person does not love you in any of the ways they know you want to be loved then that person is not listening to us and furthermore is allowing his or her ego from giving what you want or what others want from him or her in an intimate relationship.
Do not expect others to love hove you the way that you want to be loved. I call it "my brand of love". Asking to be loved the way we want to be is not unusual and in fact is the best thing to do to love yourself. Accepting what you get or settling for less than what we sincerely know we deserve and want in love is a human error that will eat at you constantly. When we are in a relationship with someone who does not love us in the shape that we like it and in the style that we want it we waste a lot of our time waiting for something that he or she cannot give because that is not what that person learned to do.
Usually what we learn is to love only in the way we were taught or believe in. We love selfishly and we do so as if it cost us money to give it. We learn to love only in a way that we saw our family of origin love each other, sometimes just during birthdays and holidays, expressing it with a gift in a box. We learn that love is conditional and at times people who claim to love us stop talking to us if we don't see things their way or we make a small mistake. Love costs us emotionally when we are with someone who loves with conditions and with an emotional price tag attached to it. Being asked for love the way we want to be loved for these people is like asking an elephant to disappear and happens to be between you and the exit door. It is to say it nicely almost impossible. People who learned to earn love will not give love without conditions and especially not the "brand" or kind of love you are asking for.
to be continued...
Do not expect others to love hove you the way that you want to be loved. I call it "my brand of love". Asking to be loved the way we want to be is not unusual and in fact is the best thing to do to love yourself. Accepting what you get or settling for less than what we sincerely know we deserve and want in love is a human error that will eat at you constantly. When we are in a relationship with someone who does not love us in the shape that we like it and in the style that we want it we waste a lot of our time waiting for something that he or she cannot give because that is not what that person learned to do.
Usually what we learn is to love only in the way we were taught or believe in. We love selfishly and we do so as if it cost us money to give it. We learn to love only in a way that we saw our family of origin love each other, sometimes just during birthdays and holidays, expressing it with a gift in a box. We learn that love is conditional and at times people who claim to love us stop talking to us if we don't see things their way or we make a small mistake. Love costs us emotionally when we are with someone who loves with conditions and with an emotional price tag attached to it. Being asked for love the way we want to be loved for these people is like asking an elephant to disappear and happens to be between you and the exit door. It is to say it nicely almost impossible. People who learned to earn love will not give love without conditions and especially not the "brand" or kind of love you are asking for.
to be continued...
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