Love Your Way 3 (continued)
And so how is it that we can be loved our way and why do we care? Why is it important to be loved your way, the way that resonates for you and with the language you can relate to.
The reason that it is important to be loved in a manner that we can relate to is simple. Being loved in a manner that brings us joy will elevate us and will elevate the relationship between us and others we love and who love us. My brother and sister have been doing just this: loving me the way that I want to be loved. I am dealing with a health opportunity and every Wednesday my sister comes to visit me with her husband and friend. She brings boxes filled with food and she creates a brunch that is fantastic as well as a dinner that is delicious. She is an extraordinary cook and her meals seem to revive me. In fact after eating one of her meals I feel a joy surging through my body. It's amazing and it is in fact due to the love she puts into making a meal using fresh ingredients like garlic and cilantro and red onions, peppers and olive oil. I cannot explain how loved I feel when she does this for me and makes the over one hour car ride to my home in Pingree Grove. She is loving me in a way what honors me by feeding me and by making the time every single week to be with me. She eventually "closes" the kitchen and announces it. Then she asks me for a pair of pajamas to wear to bed and this alone has a meaning for me. She is wearing my lounge pants and my t-shirt each time and I feel so honored that she would rather wear my t-shirt than her own. It is an additional bond. What I know about her visits and about her love is that it has NO conditions. It has NO limits. It has NO particular expectation and it is a brand of love that resonates for me always. Taking the time to be with someone we love and making a meal for them is sacred, at least for some of us. I think that the importance for me comes in that intimacy that she shares in a meal with me. The sacred space that is held when someone who loves you cooks meals for you and asks you what of the various things you would like on your plate. It is meaningful love and it is being given love in a way that you love it and want it. Since the first visit I have asked her to please come back and thanked her for coming back each time. She knows by my words that I look forward to her overnight visit.
My brother is a fixer. He can fix anything or so it seems to me. He repairs computers, guitars, toasters, cars and just all kinds of things. Recently he bought the centers to my car hubcaps and is going to install them. Before that he installed speakers to create surround sound for my TV and stereo system, running the wire under the floor from one side of the room to the other. Nothing scares him and he takes things apart with confidence putting it back together to perfection. All self learned and all googled they are things he has learned on his own. He even plays lead guitar and learned playing it by ear, without knowing how to read music. It is amazing to me the talent he has to share and this is how he shows love to others. He comes over on Sundays and I have a list of things that need to be done. Like today it is: snow removal, buy some salt for the snow removal and to put the caps on my car. He does everything for me with love and ease and grace with joy in his heart. His expression tells me he is loving me in a way that I need to be loved and without conditions. Even when I offer to pay him for things he gets for me at the store he initially refuses being paid. His heart is open and he loves me with such compassion and there are days when he and my sister hear my pains and listen with love and without judgement. I feel so fortunate but most of all I feel loved in a manner that is meaningful and that is connected.
Our family learned to love while many families have not. My brother and sister listen to how others want to be loved or what resonates as love to them while many people never listen to how others want to be loved nor do they act on that message that cannot be more clear to others who have intuition and are sensitive to others. People who ask others how they would like to be cared for are the same ones who understand that love is not just what one person defines it as nor how the ego translates love. It is in fact that way others asked to be loved, having nothing to do with money or material things for when we think about it love is completely free. It cost nothing and there is no shortage of love. Yet there are human beings who hold back love as though it does cost something and what it costs is really their ego and an illusion of a price tag. Most people cannot love others in the way they want to be loved because they are in fear and they have not learned how to do that. They don't believe in love. They don't believe that they need to work at love.
To be continued...
The reason that it is important to be loved in a manner that we can relate to is simple. Being loved in a manner that brings us joy will elevate us and will elevate the relationship between us and others we love and who love us. My brother and sister have been doing just this: loving me the way that I want to be loved. I am dealing with a health opportunity and every Wednesday my sister comes to visit me with her husband and friend. She brings boxes filled with food and she creates a brunch that is fantastic as well as a dinner that is delicious. She is an extraordinary cook and her meals seem to revive me. In fact after eating one of her meals I feel a joy surging through my body. It's amazing and it is in fact due to the love she puts into making a meal using fresh ingredients like garlic and cilantro and red onions, peppers and olive oil. I cannot explain how loved I feel when she does this for me and makes the over one hour car ride to my home in Pingree Grove. She is loving me in a way what honors me by feeding me and by making the time every single week to be with me. She eventually "closes" the kitchen and announces it. Then she asks me for a pair of pajamas to wear to bed and this alone has a meaning for me. She is wearing my lounge pants and my t-shirt each time and I feel so honored that she would rather wear my t-shirt than her own. It is an additional bond. What I know about her visits and about her love is that it has NO conditions. It has NO limits. It has NO particular expectation and it is a brand of love that resonates for me always. Taking the time to be with someone we love and making a meal for them is sacred, at least for some of us. I think that the importance for me comes in that intimacy that she shares in a meal with me. The sacred space that is held when someone who loves you cooks meals for you and asks you what of the various things you would like on your plate. It is meaningful love and it is being given love in a way that you love it and want it. Since the first visit I have asked her to please come back and thanked her for coming back each time. She knows by my words that I look forward to her overnight visit.
My brother is a fixer. He can fix anything or so it seems to me. He repairs computers, guitars, toasters, cars and just all kinds of things. Recently he bought the centers to my car hubcaps and is going to install them. Before that he installed speakers to create surround sound for my TV and stereo system, running the wire under the floor from one side of the room to the other. Nothing scares him and he takes things apart with confidence putting it back together to perfection. All self learned and all googled they are things he has learned on his own. He even plays lead guitar and learned playing it by ear, without knowing how to read music. It is amazing to me the talent he has to share and this is how he shows love to others. He comes over on Sundays and I have a list of things that need to be done. Like today it is: snow removal, buy some salt for the snow removal and to put the caps on my car. He does everything for me with love and ease and grace with joy in his heart. His expression tells me he is loving me in a way that I need to be loved and without conditions. Even when I offer to pay him for things he gets for me at the store he initially refuses being paid. His heart is open and he loves me with such compassion and there are days when he and my sister hear my pains and listen with love and without judgement. I feel so fortunate but most of all I feel loved in a manner that is meaningful and that is connected.
Our family learned to love while many families have not. My brother and sister listen to how others want to be loved or what resonates as love to them while many people never listen to how others want to be loved nor do they act on that message that cannot be more clear to others who have intuition and are sensitive to others. People who ask others how they would like to be cared for are the same ones who understand that love is not just what one person defines it as nor how the ego translates love. It is in fact that way others asked to be loved, having nothing to do with money or material things for when we think about it love is completely free. It cost nothing and there is no shortage of love. Yet there are human beings who hold back love as though it does cost something and what it costs is really their ego and an illusion of a price tag. Most people cannot love others in the way they want to be loved because they are in fear and they have not learned how to do that. They don't believe in love. They don't believe that they need to work at love.
To be continued...
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