Unveiling Others, Saying Nothing 2

I absolutely had this great conversation with a friend today about people who disclose nothing and want to know every fucking detail of someone else's life.  Some of us have been in relationships with people like this.  The ones that ask twenty questions and are not willing to answer any of them.  I call it unveiling others and saying nothing.  These are the guys that want to know how many men you fucked and are not willing to tell you how many women they abused.  These are the men who talk about everyone else and their issues focusing on the sad state of others rather than to fix their own wagon and their own life issues.

There are spectators and then there are participants.  The participants admit to their flaws while the spectators are finding flaws in others.  There are givers and then there are takers and the takers are the very same ones who do not disclose their own stuff.  They are the ones who appear to be perfect and happy all the time.  In fact they work hard at hiding the realities of life even making a big issue out of a singer who uses fowl language not seeing her talent or her gifts.  He or she is the same person who takes until you are exhausted and when you do they are the ones who want to make you feel bad about having been taken for a ride for so long.  

Unveils are the people who like to find the dirt in others and announce it.  They will share your business with everyone yet every one of their own secrets remain in the closet and are not looking inside for a deeper meaning about their own work, what they need to be doing.  People who fit in this category will say things like: "No one has ever said I am passive aggressive" when they know they are and that many people have said it to them in many different ways, sometimes by leaving.  

Those people who are "saying nothing" are also the ones who are doing nothing.  They are busy at working and have three jobs or they are busy going to every event and party so as not to think or become responsible  for their thoughts.  Those folks who are saying nothing and doing nothing are giving nothing.  They are the people who are uncovering any thing and everything about someone else that they can and their dialog is all about everyone else and not them.  They are the ones who befriend the hermit and the drug user so that they can find a reason to feel superior to others.  

We have all met the people who say nothing and yet tell us a lot about who they are.  I always go back to What Maya said: "When people tell you something believe them"