5 More Ways to Get a Date (continued)
6. Tell Everyone Your Shopping:
Tell everyone that you know that you are shopping for someone in your life. Start by shopping for a friend that can become more than that if the agreement is there. Tell them by email and if you are bold you can post it. Don't hold back and say what type of guy or girl you are looking for. Take the time to ask questions and share what your criteria is. Be specific as well.
7. Read
Find a book or as I say let the book find you in the "Self-Help" section of a book store or online. Thee is book that will help you navigate and become all that you need at the time you need it. Use yoiur intuition and just walk around and let your hand glide across the books until you sense you should stop at a book and pull it out. That book is usually the one you need to read and that will help you get a date because self-work is rare and you will be that person others will be attracted to because you are a happier healtier person.
8. Get a Mentor:
Find a person who will help you or guide you. Someone who loves and respects you and ask the magic questions around why you are not in a relationship or why they think so. Find a coach that suits you and that you feel good with. Try a few life coaches and see which one suits you. Don't give up, there is a person out there that can mentor you into loving you and then loving someone else. Don't expect instant results. It will take time: 6-12 months is usual. Ask that mentor to be honest with you about why they sense you are missing the boat and the train and the bus of relationship. You may even be like me at sixty and realize you have selected many people who are not your equal or compatable to you. Or you may attract the users and the abusers. Find out why you are still walking in circles and be honest with your life coach.
9. Be Generous:
Don't be a cheap ass date. Buy a rose from a nice florist and take that to the first date. Bring your best foot forward and take care in how you present your package of goods. Black is always a good option. A nice pair of jeans and a white shirt is perfection for a casual date, adding a jacket if it is a casual dinner. Ask about what you should wear and be generous about yourself and spend the 60 dollars to dine out or the 25 dollars for a great dessert with coffee, maybe 15 bucks. Be generous and if you are cheap don't date anyone, stay home and be miserable.
10. Romance the Stone:
Be a romantic, feel the romantic you. Work on your romance and be romance. Embrace your romantic part of you. Shed the old you and become a new more romantic person who says and does things that are loving, complementing the other person and taking the time to see yourself as a romantic human being. This does not mean Casanova although that can be the perception but more that being a casanova be a person who is genuine and loving and kind. That alone is romantic. Be who you are but don't tell people you are not romantic. No one wants to be with someone who cannot show their feelings and loving thoughts. NO ONE.
Tell everyone that you know that you are shopping for someone in your life. Start by shopping for a friend that can become more than that if the agreement is there. Tell them by email and if you are bold you can post it. Don't hold back and say what type of guy or girl you are looking for. Take the time to ask questions and share what your criteria is. Be specific as well.
7. Read
Find a book or as I say let the book find you in the "Self-Help" section of a book store or online. Thee is book that will help you navigate and become all that you need at the time you need it. Use yoiur intuition and just walk around and let your hand glide across the books until you sense you should stop at a book and pull it out. That book is usually the one you need to read and that will help you get a date because self-work is rare and you will be that person others will be attracted to because you are a happier healtier person.
8. Get a Mentor:
Find a person who will help you or guide you. Someone who loves and respects you and ask the magic questions around why you are not in a relationship or why they think so. Find a coach that suits you and that you feel good with. Try a few life coaches and see which one suits you. Don't give up, there is a person out there that can mentor you into loving you and then loving someone else. Don't expect instant results. It will take time: 6-12 months is usual. Ask that mentor to be honest with you about why they sense you are missing the boat and the train and the bus of relationship. You may even be like me at sixty and realize you have selected many people who are not your equal or compatable to you. Or you may attract the users and the abusers. Find out why you are still walking in circles and be honest with your life coach.
9. Be Generous:
Don't be a cheap ass date. Buy a rose from a nice florist and take that to the first date. Bring your best foot forward and take care in how you present your package of goods. Black is always a good option. A nice pair of jeans and a white shirt is perfection for a casual date, adding a jacket if it is a casual dinner. Ask about what you should wear and be generous about yourself and spend the 60 dollars to dine out or the 25 dollars for a great dessert with coffee, maybe 15 bucks. Be generous and if you are cheap don't date anyone, stay home and be miserable.
10. Romance the Stone:
Be a romantic, feel the romantic you. Work on your romance and be romance. Embrace your romantic part of you. Shed the old you and become a new more romantic person who says and does things that are loving, complementing the other person and taking the time to see yourself as a romantic human being. This does not mean Casanova although that can be the perception but more that being a casanova be a person who is genuine and loving and kind. That alone is romantic. Be who you are but don't tell people you are not romantic. No one wants to be with someone who cannot show their feelings and loving thoughts. NO ONE.
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